Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. I know you have heard this many times. Just what does this really mean? Well, my interpretation is: Men and women think, communicate, and act differently.
14 Day Marriage Challenge: Day 2-Communication
Why Communication is important
We have all heard that communication is important to a strong healthy marriage but reality is finding what type of communication works best for your marriage. Yes, there must be some form of verbal communication but what about nonverbal communication? Which communication style works best with your spouse? The principle of communicating is to learn, grow, and bond with your spouse.
Ask yourself: “When I communicate with my spouse, are we bonding and learning in the process?”
The purpose of the challenge is to improve the communication between you and your spouse.
How to Improve Communication
6 ways to improve communication:
- Effective Listening
Pay attention to what your spouse is saying. Give them your undivided attention, this includes shutting down the computer, turning off the TV, and put the cellphone down. Repeat back to them what you heard to make sure you have a clear understanding of what they are saying and what they are needing.
2. Clear and precise thoughts
Your spouse cannot read your mind nor understand from subtle hints. Say what you mean and mean what you say; however, when you are saying what you mean make sure you are clear and concise.
3. Stop being NEGATIVE
“If you hadn’t….” Because of you, I…” these statements give off a negative connotation. Don’t start a conversation with heated statements.
4. Speak about “I” instead of “You”
“I” statements is a way to share with your spouse how you feel; whereas, “you” statements point blame. Stop pointing the finger at your spouse when talking. Instead, share “I” statements with them of how you feel when they do something and the reason for why you feel that way
5. Speak in a normal tone instead of an elevated tone
Now, this one should be self-explanatory. We all know when someone has raised their voice at us, most of the times we “mimic” their tone. When voices are elevated, no one is hearing or listening. So nothing gets accomplished.
6. Focus on the issue/topic at hand. Do not revert back to something in the past.
Stay on point with the reason for the discussion. Don’t bring infuse current issues/conversations with past issues/conversations. Stay focus and find a solution to what the issue currently issue.
I challenge you to take 10 minutes today and talk to your spouse. Yeah, you thinking I talk to my spouse for more than 10 minutes every day, but with this challenge, I want you to follow the steps given above. Really focus on what your spouse is saying; participate in the conversation. Learn something about your spouse and really allow this to bond you guys.
How is the communication with your spouse?
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Day 1: Fresh Start
Day 3: Flirt with your Spouse
Day 4: Quickies
Day 5: Social Media
Day 6: Its Time for a Change
Day 7: Positive Affirmations
Day 8: Journal
Day 9: Get Physical
Day 10: Sharing is Caring
Day 11: Remove the Bondage
Day 12: Gift Giving
Day 13: Your Spouse BFF
Day 14: Date Your Spouse
I hope you will join us in this challenge.