When was the last time you flirted with your spouse? When was the last time you can remember your spouse flirting with you? Why did the flirting stop? Yes, I know I’m asking a lot of questions but it’s important to know if, when, and how the flirting is happening in your marriage.
TheFreeDictionary.com defines flirting as: to make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
Over time, couples loose the momentum to flirt with each other. With kids, careers, social commitments, its easy for flirting to become a thing of the past. I know when the kids were little and even in school, our lives were so busy that we didn’t have the energy nor was in the mood to flirt. Yes, its easy to forget to be fun, sexy and playful with your spouse.
Why flirting with your spouse is important
- Think back to when you first meet your spouse. There was a little flirting going on then.
- Think back to when you started dating your spouse. You guys flirted during courtship.
- Think back to the day of your wedding. I’m sure there was some flirting going on then as well.
- Think back to yesterday, did you flirt with your spouse?
I know when Stephon and I was dating the flirting was hot and heavy. That manner continued after the wedding but it did simmer down some when we got a few years in marriage, the kids started school, jobs became more demanding, and we were just plain TIRED.
However, over the last few years, our flirting has increased. Flirting to us mean several things, just as it does for most. We flirt to be playful. We flirt let the other one know we thinking about them and last but certainly not least, we flirt to initiate sex.
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Flirting allows you to keep the flames burning, remove boredom from the marriage, and signal to your spouse that they are wanted & loved.
5 Ways to Flirt with Your Spouse
Touch your spouse in a flirtatious way when they least expect. Rub their hand while you are watching TV together, pat them on the butt when they walk pass you, massage their hands, or [my favorite] walk up to your spouse and bite their lips playfully.
2. Use modern technology
Text your spouse a line from their favorite song, a quote from their favorite movie, a naughty thought, and/or even a picture of you.
3. Pet Names
Begin to call your spouse the pet name you once called them when you were dating. Now this one for me is my ultimate favorite. I don’t think I call my husband by his given name unless I am being overly serious. He really enjoys hearing me call him by the special name I gave him.
4. Become an Audio Producer
Record a sexy message for your spouse telling them how beautiful/handsome they are to you. Make sure you add what their sexiness does to you. You can leave them a voice message on their phone, work phone, or even send a voice message via email.
Greet your spouse with hugs, kisses and a negligée (or sexy boxers). Greeting your spouse doesn’t have to happen when they first get home. I do understand that you just wouldn’t be able to have on your sexy grown folks clothes all in the middle of the day when the kids are woke, but you can definitely greet your spouse anytime of the day.
Greeting your spouse, in this instance, means making them feel special!
Flirt with each other like you did before you were married. Get creative and think outside the box now when it comes to flirting with your spouse. Remember, flirting does not automatically mean sex. Flirting is another means of communicating and bonding with our spouse.
The purpose of the challenge is to increase [restart] flirting with your spouse.
How do you plan to flirt with your spouse today?
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Day 1: Fresh Start
Day 2: Communication
Day 4: Quickies
Day 5: Social Media
Day 6: Its Time for a Change
Day 7: Positive Affirmations
Day 8: Journal
Day 9: Get Physical
Day 10: Sharing is Caring
Day 11: Remove the Bondage
Day 12: Gift Giving
Day 13: Who is your spouse BFF?
Day 14: Date Your Spouse
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