So I’ve become intrigued with Lifetime TV new series, 7 Days of Sex. When I first heard about the show I was somewhat confused on what they were trying to do; however, since watching the show I understand the producer’s intent.
During the dating stage, we have no worries. We act carefree and able to make our potential spouse smile, laugh, and just enjoy each other’s company. For some reason, once we say I Do, everything changes. We struggle with laughing with each other, spending time together, or just having a simple conversation.
Why does that happen?
Well, to be honest we get comfortable. We expect certain things from our spouse that we NEVER verbalize. So when the pressure mounts and we cannot take it any longer, we take it out on each other and one of the first things to go (besides communication) is SEX.
We withhold sex because we rationalize to ourselves, they not getting my “goodies” and they are not doing me A,B, and C for me daily. But why should we put sex on a punishment for our misbehaving actions?
So the 7 Days of Sex show is spotlighting 18 couples that is taking on the challenge of 7 days of Sex to see if it will help improve their marital relationship outside the bedroom. Ok, so at first, I was like no way will that work. The first show didn’t convince me but as the show progresses I can see some benefit to this idea.
Think about it like this: We are most vulnerable when we are naked. We are much more relaxed after sex. We are much happier when we have sex on the regular. We are happier the next day especially when we know we have more of last night to come tonight.
So Lifetime show debuted on April 26; however, the hubby and I want to experiment with this theory/challenge. We invite you to participate as well. See if committing to 7 Days of Sex will Refresh, Renew, Restore your marriage in some kind of way.
How to Accomplish the 7 Day Challenge:
- Agree & Commit to the challenge by any means necessary
- Set aside a time for the kids to be in the bed, the tvs off, the phones off, & no internet
- Set the mood throughout the day (everyday)…Call, text, or email your spouse a flirty message
- Be Open to New things
- Make a household chore a flirty foreplay activity
- Be spontaneous (Sex doesn’t have to just happen at night)
- Date your spouse like you did before marriage. Be creative in dating your spouse. Don’t use the kids as an excuse not to date…Think outside the box
We understand that every week you may not be able to commit to 7 Days but this challenge should open the lines of communication and you will be able to discuss topics like this with your spouse. Hey, but who knows, I learned from one of the couples on the show: Quickies are like picker uppers so don’t count out connecting with your spouse physically every day!
So, are you up for the challenge?