As individuals, we have our own way of doing things, our likes and dislikes. We have certain things we love to do, i.e. hobbies.
These hobbies are normally self-satisfying. The self-satisfying aspects of the hobbies are what we as married individual (and really anyone single or married) should be aware of their effects on our life.
What type of hold does your hobby(ies) have over you?
14 Day Marriage Challenge: Addiction
What is Addiction?
Addiction is anything that alters your mind or behavior. This could be drugs, alcohol, internet, porn, your parents and/or your friends.
Been addicted to an activity, drugs, alcohol, women/men will cause problems in your marriage. When you consume or around things and/or people and your personality changes you must get rid of it.
Yes, sometimes we try to justify a behavior by saying “I’m only on Facebook, I’m not out running the street.” Or “I’m shopping online instead of going into the stores.” Or “He’s just a friend.”
All of those statements and many more, are just excuses for unbecoming behavior. If you and your spouse are having the same argument over and over about a behavior of yours, it would behoove you to take a step back and listen to what your spouse is saying.
Addictions are not limited to something as major as drugs, alcohol, or porn, it could be as simple as over eating, Social Media junkie, or even being a health nut. Over excessive behavior is a form of addiction.
Addictions will cause the spouse with the addiction to begin to hide, lie, and breaking the marital commitments. This is not what marriage is about.
Don’t allow something or someone to infiltrate your marriage and cause a breakdown in trust between you and your spouse.
What to do about the Addiction?
The addictive spouse:
- Must admit they have a problem
- Must be willing to seek help
- Must stop the addictive behavior
The supportive spouse:
- You must be supportive, not nagging or demeaning your spouse
- Stop being an enabler
- Seek counseling
If you are struggling with an addiction or some form of bondage, talk to your spouse about it. If your spouse is struggling with something, be the supportive spouse.
Today, I challenge you to be uplifting and supportive to your spouse. Say something positive toward their recovery. If you have noticed your spouse really attempting to make a change, give them some positive affirmations to show them that you really appreciate their efforts. Be your spouse biggest cheerleader in overcoming their addiction.
What can you do today to support your spouse?
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Day 1: Fresh Start
Day 2: Communication
Day 3: Flirt with your Spouse
Day 4: Quickies
Day 5: Social Media
Day 6: Its Time for a Change
Day 7: Positive Affirmations
Day 8:The Notebook
Day 9: Get Physical
Day 10: Sharing is Caring
Day 12: Gift Giving
Day 13: Your Spouse BFF
Day 14: Date Your Spouse
I hope you will join us in this challenge.