The new year is fast approaching, you & your spouse are talking about and planning what you will do and accomplish next year. Everything is going well until they voice their wish, passion, and dream. You know, that thing they want to do but you don’t truly understand or believe they should do it. Immediately, the conversation between you and your spouse gets tense. It’s only tense because YOU have gotten in your feelings and refuse to understand what your spouse needs are.
But you grin and bite your teeth and tell your spouse to go for it. You support them.
BUT DO YOU REALLY SUPPORT YOUR SPOUSE?
It’s so important that we intimately support our spouse and not just utter the words. Your spouse looks to you for validation and when you fail to affirm, assist, complement, respect and listen to them & their heart, it tears them down & can destroy their will to “be all in” to the marriage. One thing you have to remember, you don’t have to understand or agree, all you need is to have faith that God got y’all & will not leave you to fail, be hungry or without. Support your spouse!!!!
See I had to learn that. I fought my husband for a couple of years about owning his own truck. I didn’t understand & “I” didn’t want to go without. It wasn’t until “I” lost my job & had to depend on that truck to make money that I realized his income could support us. Yes, it takes a little sacrifice but we never went hungry or without. I’m so guilty of not seeing his vision for only looking through my vision closed eyes. My stance of “no you can’t do this” put an invisible wall between us. Our marriage was at a standstill. Yes, we still did things together but my failure to support him kept us from truly connecting with all things that mattered to us.
Once, I truly behaved as I should as his wife, I realized this isn’t about me at all. It’s about what God is trying to do with us & I need to allow my husband to lead and be the head. God never left us. My husband is so much happier now that he’s doing what he loves. I even keep the books for him. So he loves that I’m involved. Plus God taught me a good lesson on not leaning on my own understanding instead lean on Him and he will guide me (us).
Are you supporting your husband? Are you supporting your wife? It’s not about YOU understanding the dream fully (remember God didn’t give you the dream), it’s about you loving and supporting your spouse.
It’s hard trying to walk in purpose and the one person we hope will have our back, our spouse, doesn’t. Be your spouse cheerleader! Be their loudest and proudest supporter.
Your unwavering, unconditional support will build their confidence but most importantly build a strong bond between you guys.
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How can you show support to your spouse today?
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