It’s so hard to just let things go. Why do we
think we need to know everything? Have answers to all the questions in our head?
In marriage, there will be a time or two that you and your spouse will not see eye to eye. The discussion can get heated & sway from the real issue.
With any discussion, there must be a point that you end the discussion but does the discussion really end?
Do you have to have the last word? Must all the myths of the universe be explained for you to drop a subject?
Closure is important but as individuals we define closure differently. As a couple you must do your due diligence to understand your spouse love language and this includes “arguments.”
Most arguments go on and on not because of the issue that started the argument but for an underlying issue that isn’t being met.
When something really small gets out of hand & turn into WWIII in your house:
1. STOP talking
2. LISTEN to what your spouse is “really” saying
3. ACKNOWLEDGE that you “hear” what your spouse is saying
If you are the spouse looking for closure:
1. STATE what it is that you NEED from your spouse
2. ACCEPT the answers given
3. STOP looking for something that isn’t there
Closure is important but to achieve closure, you must understand what closure look like to you. Have a point where you understand what you are digging for isn’t there. Don’t belabor a conversation because you assume more is needed.
Remember: LESS is more. Accept what is being said & done for you.
Is closure important to you?
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