I know by now, you have heard, watched, and read all the yumminess surrounding a couple that got engaged on Saturday morning and was married by Saturday afternoon. Yes, #ForeverDuncan broke the internet over the weekend for a good reason: Love, Marriage, and Surprises!
I was crying like a big baby watching this all unfold. The husband to be planned the whole day to a T! I’m not mad, jealous or angry at anything he did.
It was PERFECT FOR THEM!
I truly loved what this guy did/pulled off. It fit him to a T. He knew his wife & he did what he was comfortable doing & knew she would love it.
But……
Don’t you dare start comparing your husband to him.
Don’t compare your marriage to theirs.
Don’t say “I wish my husband would be more like him!”
Celebrate the Duncan’s but also celebrate what you have.
Comparison is a terrible trap & it will make you miserable + unappreciative of what your spouse does for you & the family.
If I didn’t respect this guy and how he took the time to know his girlfriend (now wife) and understood the importance of having real conversations with her, I definitely respect him for this Instagram post he shared.
He is basically telling you exactly what I’m telling you, set your own bar. Don’t try to measure up to his bar. He took the time to know his wife but most importantly,
“His intention was to please her beyond belief.”
As you celebrate this couple, be careful that you don’t subconsciously start wishing your spouse did more surprise things like this, or even was more like Alfred Duncan. Your spouse isn’t Alfred. So don’t expect him to do what this guy did.
Appreciate your spouse for who they are and not whom someone else is!
Gloria @ Homemade & Yummy says
Must have been out of the social media loop…but didn’t hear about this. In a couple of weeks my husband and I will be married 39 years!! 39 year!!! For many that is an eternity….yet it doesn’t seem that long for us. We are still best friends, do lots of things together…and are each others main support. I don’t think it gets better than that.
Jennifer B says
It is so true that we should appreciate what we have with our own marriages and not compare ourselves to others!
Cynthia says
This is a great article. I have to agree with you about not comparing and thinking, “I wish ….” I think this is a good thought for many areas of our lives.
Ashley says
I read about this on Facebook. Honestly if my husband even thought about trying to do this to me he would be in trouble! I need time to plan! lol
Rebecca Bryant says
It is so true that we should appreciate what we have with our own marriages and not compare ourselves to others. My maariage has lasted 23 years because we have worked at it and have made it uniquely our own
Rebecca Bryant says
It is so true that we should appreciate what we have with our own marriages and not compare ourselves to others. My maariage has lasted 23 years because we have worked at it and have made it uniquely our own
Erin @ Stay at Home Yogi says
Oh I love this! <3 Your spouse isn't Alfred! So true and great advice. Appreciate what you have and what is special about your partner and your unique relationship.