Here I Stand
You’re like a mirror to my soul but a queen
(My queen)
And finally now, I know just what that means, oh yeah
You’re the blessing I never thought I would get
And to the Lord I humbly bow my head
Beautiful words to express how you feel about your spouse. Usher Raymond really poured out his heart to the love of his life. He really wanted her to know that “Here [he] Stand.”
Do you have the same sentiments when it comes to standing with your spouse? This would include the good times, the bad times, and the ugly times. Many of us would say yes I will be there through thick and thin; however, it’s easier said than done.
Building a strong bond, relationship, and communication in marriage takes hard work. As we know, people changes, situations changes, values and priorities changes which will breed uncertainty and differences in marriage.
When situations become tough, it’s hard to believe that you will be able to stand with your spouse through thick and thin but you can.
Steps to Overcome Obstacles
1. First, be mindful of the words you use because they shape your mindset and actions.
2. NEVER use negative words to describe your marriage, situation, or spouse
3. Pray and ask God to be a shield and beacon to help you get pass this hiccup
Most obstacles are fanned and kept alive by disagreements or arguments. We must understand that we cannot get past obstacles in our marriage if we do not recognize that a change must take place.
Disagreements occur because our needs weren’t met. When there is a disagreement don’t feed the fire with sharp words instead stop, pray, & think…sometimes its best to let things cool off.
Never allow a weak moment (disagreement) to take away from the foundation (bond) you & your spouse are building. Remember you took a vow to stand together as one through sickness (bad times) and in health (good times).
Keep in mind that no conflict, obstacle, or disagreement is stronger than the bond and/or love that you and your spouse has for each other.
Here is your new affirmation: Here [I] Stand with my spouse hand and hand just as I did on my wedding day. I promised before God to become one with him/her and I will until the day I die. My spouse means more to me than winning any disagreement. Amen.
In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ.- 1 Peter 1:6-7
What are your plans to remain standing with your spouse? Post your comments below but share this post with your friends and family; it could really benefit someone.
Kristin says
I think that it is wonderufl you wrote about this and especially to PRAY about it! My husband and I always pray every night, but we also do it when we are bickering (and other times, of course). We get past things so much faster and since we started to pray more about it we hardly fight.
Grandma Juice says
Good Advice!!! =)
mistee dawn says
You have the greatest advice. I love your conviction. Have a great day, lady!
Felissa (Two Little Cavaliers) says
You have to both want to overcome obstacles. You both have to desire a happier life together.
Nicole (Mama to 4 Blessings) says
WHAT A NICE POST!
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Janet K says
My husband and I started out saying negative things as playfulness, but we have both said things (and continue to say things) that really hurt sometimes. It’s hard for me to explain to my husband that his words hurt because his excuse is “it was just a joke, lighten up”.
Marilyn says
I totally agree with your insights here.. GREAT post.. Its great to stand together even through disagreements and not let things get out of hand to the pint where you cant remember what brought you two together and how much greater it is to allow for resolve to get back to that.. LOVE this.. SIncerely would LOVE to follow you back via linky tools, but can’t find your list.. Please direct me to it and I will follow you too.. : )) Wishing you an amazing evening.. ~ M
Still Dating My Spouse says
Marilyn,
Thanks for your kind words. I am not sure about the linky tools. I sent you an email.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Janet,
So true..sometimes we start off playing but then one will get hurt by a playful word then it becomes serious. You guys should talk about off limit words and phrases and implement them.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Kristin,
Prayer changes things and people. What a great thing you guys do to pray even when you are not seeing eye to eye.
Pamela