“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react, that matters.” ©Jane Powell – Meditations for Women
We all are involved in situations that will test our communication & responsive skills. It’s how we act that determines the outcome.
We all have the ability to control our own actions. The world will try to invade our marriages with obstacles that would seem as if we cannot control.
You cannot control some events that will because they are part of life but you can definitely use your strength & power to control your tongue on how you will react.
This control will make a world of difference in how you and your spouse are able to handle hiccups in your marriage. Make it a point to table a discussion if your reaction will not move you and your spouse to a calm place of resolution.
It’s better to calm down & speak rationally instead of speaking emotionally.
5 Ways to control your reaction
- 1. Use effective listening
- 2. Pray and ask for understanding
- 3. Table the discussion to a better time
- 4. Respond to facts not hearsay
- 5. Know when things are being said to hit your buttons. Don’t allow someone else issues fill your space.
Reacting is a part of who we are but you can determine how that reaction will effect your marriage.
How do you control your reaction to heated discussions?
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You have excellent points in controlling your reaction. We also have a rule that you can’t bring up old conflicts. It doesn’t help any situation and we have already dealt with those issues.
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Shawn,
What a great rule to have! It doesn’t help to keep rehashing something that you “supposedly” already discussed.
Thanks for sharing,
Pamela
Listening is huge for me … I think I convert his words through a filter that blows things up when it might not necessarily be the case… I am working on it
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Arelis,
I think we all have had those moments when we hear & process what our spouse is saying and make it be something it truly is not. Keep working on it….
Pamela