He who blesses his friend with a loud voice early in the morning, it will be reckoned a curse to him. -Proverbs 27:14
The worst thing that can ruin your day is running into someone that is rude & having a bad day & they decide to take their frustrations out on you. Rudeness is not limited to those that we do not know but it can happen right in our home, in our marriages.
Rudeness toward your spouse can make for an intense atmosphere in the home. Your inattentiveness to how you make your spouse feel around you is not loving behavior. In living as a single person, we don’t recognize that some of our habits may be annoying to others, but when you get married and must cohabit with others, those “habits” of yours could be irritating, embarrassing, or unbecoming.
Love is not RUDE. In all things, make sure your actions are positive and uplifting toward your spouse. NEVER do anything that would frustrate your spouse or cause them discomfort.
Your house should be a place of warmth, love, and peace. Rudeness is definitely the opposite of those.
3 Guiding principles to avoid being rude toward your spouse:
- Treat your spouse the way you would want to be treated. (Luke 6:31)
- Your spouse should be considerate to your spouse as you are to strangers.
- Be mindful of the things that your spouse ask you to do or not to do.
Basically, think about how your behavior is affecting your marriage, your spouse self-esteem, and YOU. Don’t allow your selfish behavior cause you & your spouse to argue. Make it a point to be thoughtful with ALL actions in your marriage.
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife-Proverbs 25:24
This week Love Dare:
Ask your spouse to tell you three (3) things that cause him/her to be
uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking
them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective ONLY.
This is a great exercise but make sure you understand that this is not a time for you to become defensive or angry with your spouse for sharing. Use this as an opportunity to learn and grow. Your marriage is more important than any selfish inconsiderate action so remember that!
We all learn and when we get married, we make changes. What are 3 things you have had to change after getting married?