Best friends forever is a term thrown around to signify that friend who is your ride or die chick/fellow.
When we get married we begin to rethink or realign our alliances to friends & whom should carry that title.
BFF outside of marriage
Honestly, we all had a life before marriage and had friends. You probably have that one friend that was your sister or brother from another mother. Do you just get rid if them now that you are married?
My answer is no if…! The ifs are:
1. They respect your spouse
2. They respect the boundaries YOU set for them & your marriage
3. They respect they are not first in your life anymore
Sharing the title of BFF
Your spouse & your friend can be your BFF. The definitions & levels of friendship is different of course but you could definitely have them as friends.
Your spouse is your #1 BFF. You are building a life with them so you will share ALL of your ups, downs, proud moments & not so proud moments with them. This includes work, kids, spiritual, & marriage things.
With your friend, they will still be your ride or die, just like your spouse, but their level of receiving information will be different. You still will share your ups & downs but some of your marital issues will not be shared. Yeah yeah I know you share everything with your bestie but is that the best thing to do for your marriage & your friendship?
I posed the question on SDMS Facebook page and of course I got a variety of answers. One was: the bible said leave & cleave so this would include outside friendships as well. Well yep the bible did say leave & cleave but I don’t think God wants you not to have “friends.”
You must be mature enough to understand that outside friendships with your long term friends will & must change when you get married. They must be treated just like family, leave them out of your marriage!
Enjoy your spouse & keep your friends! Just don’t allow your relationship with your friends to overshadow your marriage.
How do you handle friends & your marriage?
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