Oh the change! You know that moment in a women’s life when Aunt Sally stops visiting. Yep, many women, including myself, have or is experiencing menopause have heard the myth about menopause ruins the joy of sex and there is no freedom to be spontaneous. That is absolutely FALSE!
Menopause is the end of a woman’s monthly period/cycle. Menopause normally occurs in women between the age of 42 to 58 or even earlier. When the decision was made that I would need to stop having my monthly cycle at the age of 39, I was terrified that the intimacy between me and my husband would suffer.
My OB/GYN informed me about all the side effects that will occur once my cycle stops and she advised me to take hormone replacement therapy. I wasn’t excited about a life of hormone replacement but I also wasn’t about a marriage that didn’t have the sexual intimacy that it once had.
So those that know me know I took the internet to find different ways to keep the physical aspect of my marriage exactly where it needs to be. Menopause shouldn’t stop our freedom to be spontaneous. Intimacy and love making is crucial to a healthy happy marriage.
One of the blessings for me while having to go through early menopause, I had a supportive husband. In doing my research about menopause, it said that some women would experience mood swings, hot flashes, and vaginal dryness.
Mood swings were a normal part of my life so I was hoping that menopause would cease my mood swings. Hot flashes, well I will just purchase a new fan for my room and portable one to carry with me, but I was stomped on how to handle the vaginal dryness.
I knew that I didn’t want to make intimacy awkward for myself nor my husband. So how can I make sure menopause doesn’t rob my marriage of the Freedom to be Spontaneous? I created a date night box for those spontaneous moments.
With my husband being a truck driver, I needed to be able to be spontaneous. Well, truthfully, we love spontaneity.
Date Night Box
Our date night box include things that will help make the moment special. For us: we have candles, rose peddles, massage oil and K-Y® Liquibeads. The box is there as an enhancement for those moments that menopause symptoms show up.
The items for the date night box is found in your local drug store or big box stores. I was able to get everything including the K-Y® LiquiBeads at my neighborhood Wal-Mart.
I am so blessed to have a husband who is not ashamed and is willing to do whatever and try whatever is needed to make sure “OUR” intimacy is always on point.
How to Use K-Y Liquibeads
K-Y® Liquibeads is sold over the counter and to increase a woman’s personal lubrication. It comes with an applicator and “liquid beads” to be inserted. To use K-Y® Liquibeads is simple and not invasive. Grab this coupon from coupon.com and try K-Y®Liquibeads.
It is important that you recognize what your body is going through and take heed to make sure it doesn’t interfere with your physical intimacy with your husband.
The Freedom to Be Spontaneous regardless of menopause
Menopause doesn’t have to be the end of the intimacy in your marriage. Accept where you are in life. Accept that menopause happens to women. Accept the fact that you rule over menopause not that menopause rules over your life and marriage.
Menopause doesn’t and will not take up residence in my marriage. With me knowing myself, my body, and my husband I am able to be ready when the time comes. Its imperative that you understand how menopause is affecting your body, your moods, and your love life. Take back control!
You can definitely create the atmosphere that benefits your marriage and allow your mind, heart and body to work together!
What techniques did you use to keep the intimacy after menopause or just in general?