Fathers Day is Sunday. Over the last few months, I’ve been looking at my husband and comparing but not comparing him to my dad. (Stay with me. I’m making a point lol)
Our dads are our first encounter with men, whether good or bad. Consciously and unconsciously, we choose men/husbands that have some qualities of our dad or have the qualities we missed from our dad. Looking back over my dating history, I noticed certain aspects of the men I choose to date that were similar to my dad.
It’s truly amazing what habits we get from our parents even in their absence and how it can enter into our relationships.
My husband, My Dad: the similarities and the differences
- My husband, like my dad, makes me the center of his attention. I got that from my dad & I knew I needed that from any man that wanted to be with me.
- My husband, like my dad, are SLOW (sometimes too slow) to speak their mind.
- Unlike my dad, my husband isn’t an alcoholic. I watched my dad destroy everything around him (including his family) when he would drink. I knew the man I would be with would not be a drunk/alcoholic.
- Unlike my dad, my husband is not truly family oriented. He doesn’t need to be around family all the time. We were brought up around family. Spending time with family every holiday. Traveling together. My husband can take it or leave it. LOL
- Unlike my dad, my husband is the head of our family. My dad wasn’t really given the chance to be the leader. I knew when I got married, I would allow my husband to be the leader just like the God said he should be.
I shared these as examples of how our dads play a big role in the type of man we chose as husbands. We easily recognize the negative things our father did or did not do but even in the negative it helped mold our view of what we wanted in a husband.
So on this Fathers Day reflect and thank you dad for the lessons he gave you, willingly and unwillingly, about men.
Share some examples of what you learned from your dad that carried over into your marriage.
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