14 Day Marriage Challenge: Day 7 Positive Affirmations

Compliments and words of encouragement are needed fuel for the body, mind, and soul! This fuel (affirmations) is used to align our thoughts and actions.

Affirmations are used to motivate and encourage us to stay focused.  Stating positive affirmations daily and throughout the day reinforces why we are thankful for what we have, why we do what we do, and why we love who we love.

14 Day Marriage Challenge: Positive Affirmations

SDMS 14 Day Challenge

Why Affirmations

Our marriage experience, whether positive or negative, is based on our thinking process. We react on what we see, hear, and think. Using affirmations will help us to refocus on what is important and to change our thinking behavior toward our spouse.

Affirmations aren’t used only as a personal internal guide but can used to motivate and encourage your spouse. Per Dr. Gary Chapman, author of Love Languages, words of affirmation are also used to communicate/show and receive love.

How to use Affirmations

As noted, affirmations are used to communicate love. The affirmations you give to your spouse, should pertain to them and what they have done. These affirmations should be uplifting, sincere and specific.

Affirmations are not long dissertations. They can easily start off with just: “See this is why I love you [insert positive statement here]” or “Aww, thank you. This is one of the things I love about you.”

Institute daily affirmations into your morning routine to refocus your thinking to what is positive and best for yourself, your spouse, and your family. Write them down. Say them out loud to yourself in the morning and throughout the day.

5 Affirmations for marriage

1. My soft answers dissolve anger.

2. My marriage is built on love, honor, and trust

3. I appreciate my spouse [insert statement here]

4. I appreciate my spouse for all that [s]he does for me and our family.

5. I will support my spouse in all that they do.

Today’s challenge:

Make a list of affirmations that you can say to your spouse. Say a few affirmations to your spouse today. Give your spouse the compliments and encouragement they need.

What are some affirmations you say to help you stay focused and positive?

Please share in the comment section below.

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Challenge Topics
Day 1: Fresh Start
Day 2: Communication
Day 3: Flirt with your Spouse
Day 4: Quickies
Day 5: Social Media
Day 6: Its Time for a Change
Day 8: The Notebook
Day 9: Get Physical
Day 10: Sharing is Caring
Day 11: Addiction
Day 12: Gift Giving
Day 13: Your Spouse BFF
Day 14: Date Your Spouse

I hope you will join us in this challenge.



  1. Kelley Johnsen says

    Positive affirmations are so important! I once read that for every 1 negative comment to a man, it takes 5 positive comments to cancel out the 1 negative. Men carry things differently than woman. With us, a nice comment cancels out a bad experience, we move better. While we are more emotional we can overcome some things once forgiven. Men carry things for years and repress them. Giving your husband positive affirmations are so important to your marriage. Once I understood this I made sure to think about my wording more carefully. If I have something I want him to work on, I word it in a way as not to be negative or condescending, but if he could help me do this…. He takes it as he is contributing and needed by me, instead of him not doing something right. Speaking to him positively has really helped our marriage to grow :-)

  2. Amber M. says

    I absolutely love this! The littlest things can make my hubby light up! I am constantly telling him how great he is as stuff, how happy he makes me, thanking him for being such a hard worker. He’s such an awesome man!

  3. says

    Positive Affirmations are critical to success in all that we do and should definitely be introduced in our relationships and marriage. Positive energy begets positive energy.


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