Honestly, when I was thinking about this topic, I had one thing in mind “spiritually” unequally yoked. However, I started sharing and talking with others and talking with them, it was very clear to me that unequally yoked doesn’t only apply to your religious beliefs but all aspects of marriage.
As individuals, we have our own belief system, our way of doing things, and our way of thinking. The way you act, think, and do is based on what you witnessed in your household.
Opposite do attract! I know you have heard that and it may have been said about you and your spouse. So if that saying is true that means that some of your ideals are different.
There are several areas you can be unequally yoked in your marriage:
- How to manage finances
- How to raise the kids
- How many kids to have
- The value of education
- Extended family-How involved will the extended family be in the marriage
These are just a few items that the thinking pattern could be different. So just what do you do?
Well, first these are some of the questions that should have been asked before marriage, but if you didn’t have this open and transparent conversation with your spouse before marriage, the best time to have the conversation is now!
When you are dating: there is your way of thinking and your boy/girlfriend way of thinking.
In marriage there should be a united way of thinking.
Just how can you accomplish this?
- Openly talk about your views on topics that could affect your marriage
- Be open to understanding and listening to what your spouse has to say
- Be willing to come back to the table of discussion when situations and time has made significant chances to how you feel and think
Don’t assume that you guys will just agree. Take the time to talk and share and come to an agreement about these and other issues that could rise. Understand that you must have a balance!
What is one topic you and your spouse have a different opinion on; but how have you come to an agreeable agreement?