I, unfortunately, witnessed something that I’ve had to come to grips with knowing that it happens in more marriages than we want to believe. It’s a not so silent abuse that some husbands and wives live with daily. Verbal Abuse is destroying marriages but most importantly, it’s destroying the self-esteem of some men and women.
Verbal abuse is the excessive use of language to undermine someone’s dignity and security through insults or humiliation, in a sudden or repeated manner.
Verbal abuse is a silent killer of a person self-esteem and self-worth. This form of abuse is happening in too many marriages.
The problem is: the abuser doesn’t even recognize they are being abusive and the abusee is internalizing the abuse and dying from the inside out.
Words are powerful.
When a spouse is constantly telling their spouse how they dislike them, that they are disgusting, or even say stuff like “you are worthless” they are verbally abusing their partner.
When a spouse is bullied, they feel horrible inside and sometimes don’t show or tell others how they are feeling.
Who can they tell?
The person that have pledged to love them unconditionally, is the cause of the horrible feelings inside.
The verbal abuse MUST STOP!
Marriage wasn’t designed for one spouse to bully and mistreat their partner.
Marriage wasn’t designed to give you a human to mistreat.
Marriage should be the one relationship everyone feels safe and wanted.
We have the ability to stop this from happening.
More and more hurt and damage happen inside if nobody does anything to stop the bullying. Let’s create a generation of kind, caring and loving marriages.
It starts with YOU!
If you are the abuser, get help to stop your abusive ways.
If you are the abusee, tell someone & get help to understand why you accept abusive behavior.
We also have a duty to teach our children that it’s not ok to say unkind things to each other. We must teach our children to stand up for each other and to stop any form of bullying in relationships and truly in all aspects of life.
The tongue has no bones but is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful with your words.
Don’t you be the cause of your spouse dying inside!
Jennifer B says
I completely agree on this. Words can hurt someone very easily and we need to choose them wisely when speaking to our spouses and anyone else too.
Rebecca Bryant says
Words can hurt and so can lack of words. One needs to think carefully before speaking and listen more.
Alicia says
So often verbal abuse is ignored and not spoken about. Thanks for speaking up about this topic and letting those who are verbally abused know they don’t deserve to be treated like that.
Wendy @ ABCs and Garden Peas says
You are so right – words are VERY powerful. Verbal abuse is a serious issue in all kinds of relationships, including marriages.
Kathy says
I think a lot of people don’t realize that this is still abuse. Nobody should have to go though any of this. Words can certainly hurt, so there is no reason for anyone to do any verbal abusing.
Aimee Smith says
When you hear about all of the bullying that begins at such young ages, you can pretty much bet this is what those children are seeing. We have to be examples to our children. Changes in our society have to start at home.
Jocelyn @ Hip Mama's Place says
I was just watching a tv movie today about a woman verbally abusing her husband. It’s never okay to abuse someone, be it verbally or physically.
Ann Bacciaglia says
It is so hard to see someone treat their spouse is a bad way. Words can be as powerful as a fist.
Stacie V says
I was able to help a friend out of a verbally abusive relationship. She just needed a little support for me to have the courage to leave. She is really happy now.
Elizabeth Lampman says
People do not recognize the damage verbal abuse can have on a person. It is terrible for the children to grow up learning this behavior.
gingermommyrants says
The wounds words can cause sometimes never go away. So many people do not see the signs.
Stacey says
We don’t always think of this as abuse but it’s important that we recognize it. The old sticks and stones isn’t true – words can hurt a lot.
Rosey says
I’ve seen silent bullying too, where disapproval drips from someone. I don’t like it.
Nicole Escat says
Agreed what you’ve said. Especially bully from our partners wasn’t good. Verbal Abuse is really hurt, it should be stop in every marriage lives.
Amy Desrosiers says
I grew up with parents who spewed tons of abuse daily. It really affected us kids badly so I try to not do it.
janis says
Silent abuse happens more often than we think, and the worst part is we may never know it is going on. Words have much more power than you would normally assume, and sometimes you really need to be careful.
Janeane Davis says
I never believed the saying “words can never hurt me.” Words have power and are strong. We must be careful not to verbally abuse our spouses. It is wrong and it is unacceptable.
Still Dating My Spouse says
Words are powerful!!!!