So, I was signing into my yahoo account and saw this title “What Happy couples Do” for an article. Now, you know I had to click on it because if someone has the answer to this that fits all couples then I need to read it.
Well, it was a video for a show hosted by Niecy Nash (@NiecyNash). The show is Let’s Talk About it.
Niecy and her husband interviewed Flex Alexander & his wife singer Shanice,ย a husband (without his wife) and a wife (without her husband).
They shared with the audience things that makes for a Happy Couple in their relationship.
The wife (without her husband) stated one thing that her & husband does in their marriage is to set a timer for five minutes and one talk and the other listen. Now one thing, I would really like to see is the no facial expressions. She stated that they can not show any facial expressions when the other is talking. Have you set a timer when talking to your spouse?
Flex said the key is to talk about everything: the good, the bad, and the indifferent. He also made mention of laughter. Laugh together! Do you and your husband laugh often?
Niecy and her husband said couples that are really happy have a hobby together. Her & husband are “cyclists.” Do you and your husband have a hobby together?
Another tip, was to fellowship with other happy couples.
View the video and let me know your thoughts on what makes a happy couple:
Rosemary says
I have set a timer when talking with my husband. We don’t do this very often, but it is great if you have been going through a period of being just too busy to talk. It gets you to sit down and pay attention. I wouldn’t make a no facial expression rule, however. Seeing a friendly, attentive look on the other person’s face and getting a little bit of feedback while you talk show that you are being heard and understood and enhances the experience of communication.
Brandi Y. says
My hubby and I love movies! Does that count as a hobby? hehe And I agree about being around other happy couples…makes a big difference! ๐
Shawna says
Great tips from a hilarious woman! I love Niecy Nash, but I think Flex had a great suggestion when he said, “Don’t go to bed mad.” I don’t like to go to bed mad either…because then I’m tossing and turning with all of those thoughts in my head. I’d rather resolve the issue and wake up to a fresh new day.
Joy H says
Those are good tips. I wonder if my husband would set a timer.
monique says
This is definitely interesting. It seems that by just incorporating 1 or 2 new things, it can help make even a good relationship better. I think it’s great that you’re always sharing on how to keep it together. Keep it up!
Monique says
These are great suggestions! I think I’m going to do the 5 minute timer idea. My fiance and I are always together but doing separate activities so I think this is a good way to put the distractions away and focus on each other. We definitely laugh often, we like to joke around a lot! We like to go on hikes together or go out to enjoy meals together. It’s also fun to be around other happy couples.
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Amanda says
Thanks for sharing!! Love the idea of trying to find a happy couple to hang out with… sometimes that is hard to find. Love this…. LOL ๐
Stephanie @ The Sister Source says
I think setting a timer is a great idea. I also read somewhere that when having an argument or a difficult conversation the couple should hold hands. The combination of setting a timer and holding hands certainly creates intimacy and can make it impossible not to HEAR your spouse.
Alyssa McVey says
We don’t set a timer when we talk, but we talk daily about what’s going on in our family. I think we talk more than most couples. We laugh ALL the time. We are both the kind of people who enjoy joking around (nicely) and we often choose entertainment that is comedy. We don’t have a hobby together. I don’t think that the happiness of a couple is based upon a shared hobby. It would be nice if we had a shared hobby, but we don’t. We enjoy different things. Unless you count eating out as a hobby. ๐
Still Dating My Spouse says
Alyssa,
A hobby could consist of anything. It doesn’t have to be a craft. The purpose of a “hobby” is for couples to do things together. I’m glad you guys are able to laugh, joke, and communicate. That is much needed in marriage.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Stephanie,
Thank you for this tidbit. What a great idea of holding hands. Thanks for visiting and please stop by again and share!
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Amanda,
It is very hard, but we need a good support system.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Monique,
Thanks for stopping by. Yep get rid of the distractions and focus on each other while you are talking. Let me know how it goes.
Pamela