I am so sure you have heard about the Houston woman who recently had a wedding ceremony to officially marry HERSELF. Yes you read that correct, she planned a full wedding for her to say I Do to herself.
Marriage is for TWO not ONE
Yasmin Eleby decided it was time for her to get married so she planned HER wedding. A wedding is a sacred ceremony where a man and a woman commit to a lifelong journey of love and oneness. The missing piece to what Ms. Eleby did was a groom.
I applaud Ms. Eleby for being able to provide for self but I give her a side eye for making a mockery of marriage.
We as women must understand our worth and love ourselves more than the need to have a wedding. When your self worth is tide to material things or even people, you are not truly happy with who you are. Ms. Eleby is seeking attention and validation from others. There is ABSOLUTELY no reason to have a full fledge wedding and there is no groom.
Society has women thinking they are old maids or washed up if they don’t have a man (or love) or married by the age of 40. Society shouldn’t dictate to you what should be happening in your life.
Know YOU. LOVE YOU. Respect YOU.
When I was singing ‘I Believe I Can Fly’ and got to the second verse I was instantly struck with the realization that I am indeed ‘flying!’ I’m doing so many things that I only dreamed about and never thought would be possible. I want to encourage each of you to spread your wings and fly! You are not too old and it’s not too late to try something different, learn a new skill, travel to exciting places, etc…. – Yasmin Eleby
Ms. Eleby is absolutely right about “you are not too old and it’s not too late to try something different, learn a new skill, etc.” what she failed to mention is “while it’s not too late, it’s never too late to LOVE SELF.”
Marriage and true love doesn’t have an expiration date. Don’t rush it and don’t value your self worth on having a man or wedding.
For a marriage to work, it takes TWO people. Marriage is already hard enough but it’s even harder when it’s JUST YOU IN THE MARRIAGE. Don’t fall for societal hype and believe for you to be happy you MUST HAVE A WEDDING.
Happiness starts from within. We wish Yasmin happiness and self love.
What are your thoughts?
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
Honestly, I think she was just looking for her 15 minutes – and she got it. If she’s happy, though…..
Kelsey Apley says
Marriage always isn’t easy but at the end of the day if the two put in the effort and don’t get comfortable you can live a happy marriage for sure. We are going on six years! Congrats to Yasmin!
Jennifer Sikora says
That is just so crazy how someone thinks that they can marry themselves. I agree – like you — marriage is for two not one.
Jenny Temcio says
I remember an episode of Sex and the City where Carrie married herself, too. Seriously, though, I think marriage is definitely for two.
lisa says
Marriage is a 2 person commitment. I applaud her for her strength and independence, but I don’t agree with her “marrying herself”.
Dee Mauser says
Wow, it must be nice to have the funds to waste on something that is supposed to be sacred between a man and a woman. You can celebrate yourself in many ways when you’re proud of your accomplishments but this is just crazy!
Amy Desrosiers says
You are right! Sometimes, my husband is too generous, and I feel like I rip him off with the empathy, kindness, and patience department. I guess I need to stop being selfish.
Francine says
Whatever makes you happy as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody else. Not for me but that’s what makes the world go round!
Daisy says
Marriage is not easy. It’s very rewarding, but not easy. It takes compromise, patience, and love. It also has ups and downs.
Shauna says
I totally agree. I hubby is still my best friend and we are still dating, ten years later. Great post
Autumn @Mamachallenge says
Marriage is not easy, but it is worth it! Including the ups and downs, I would not want my life any other way.
Liz Mays says
I think it’s important to be happy with yourself. You can’t depend on others to make you happy. They should supplement you not complement you.
Christine says
Marriage is definitely a partnership, a team. It will definitely have it’s ups and downs, but supporting one another is crucial!
Sarah @ Must Have Mom says
I agree with your sentiments on this. I was a bit taken aback when I heard.
Real Talk Moms says
I haven’t heard about this person that married herself. I am not sure how I feel about it too be honest. It seems like a weird idea.
Debi says
I believe happiness comes from yourself and not a wedding. That being said I have known a few women who wanted to get married so badly that they rushed into marriage with someone just to have a wedding. And it always ended badly.