We are so excited about the new Dating n Love series on Still Dating My Spouse. Weekly we will spotlight a couple still dating and in love, i.e. Dating n Love. This week, we have the pleasure of sharing the love of an unconventional librarian, Pam Margolis and her husband, Howard.
I know one of Pam’s favorite quotes is: “and what is the use of a book,’ thought Alice, ‘without pictures or conversation?”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Pam and her husband are writing their book of love with plenty of pictures and conversations. I follow Pam on Facebook and Twitter and their “marriage humor” that she shares is hilarious. They are definitely keeping the laughter and fun in their marriage. So yes, I am glad to share with you our first Dating n Love couple: Howard and Pam Margolis.
Howard and Pam on their wedding day 8 years ago
SDMS: What are your names (First names or Initials only) and how long have you been married?
Pam: Pam and Howard. We’ve been married 8 years. This is my second, his first.
SDMS: What were your goals for your marriage when you were engaged?
Pam: My goal was to have a nonviolent relationship.
SDMS: How have your goals changed since marriage? Or have they changed?
Pam: My (Pam) goals are the same.
SDMS: What is the one piece of advice you received that you still hold near and dear for your marriage?
Pam: None. I knew what made a marriage work, but I just needed a good man to work it with.
SDMS: What do you and your spouse have in common?
Pam: Howard and I are both introverts and enjoying having down time; even if we are alone in a quiet house together both of us reading, it helps us both recharge our batteries.
Howard and Pam Margolis today!
SDMS: You and Howard are of different colors and ethnicities. How did you overcome these obstacles?
Pam: We didn’t have to overcome much. Mostly his parents were concerned at first but they soon came around when they saw how happy Howard was. I’ve always had the color conversation my whole life and so learning about my husbands ethnic beliefs (he’s Jewish) gave me a way to study and learn more about him and take the conversation off of my own ethnicity.
SDMS: Speaking of religion, how do you handle that conversation?
Pam: I don’t attend church regularly nor does he attend synagogue regularly, except on very important holidays. We’ve learned to merge our traditions to accommodate the other. I will always believe in God but learning about his religion gives me a different perspective.
SDMS: How important is date night in your marriage?
Pam: We’ve found that a scheduled commitment makes it more work and less fun. Sometimes the best nights happen by accident when the kids are out of the house and we can spend a few hours reconnecting.
SDMS: When time is not available how do you and your spouse date?
Pam: He waits up for me when I get home from work late and waits for me to unwind from work; then we catch up. Sometimes its pillow talk but at least we reconnect for a few minutes.
SDMS: How do you maintain work/life balance?
Pam: We text and email during the work week since our schedules are different. I’ve learned to set time aside on Saturdays; that’s usually when he’s open to doing something together.
Thank you Pam for being a couple that understands the work that it takes to have the marriage you desire. Keep dating your spouse and sharing your humor with us!
Check out Pam blog, Unconventional Librarian.
If you would like your marriage spotlighted on our Dating n Love series, please send an email to info@stilldatingmyspouse.com with the subject line: Dating n Love interview! We would love to feature you and your spouse!
love this! it’s nice to see what works for other couples
What a sweet couple! I love reading marriage success stories. This is very uplifting.
My husband and I are both introverts as well and it seems to work for us. Sometimes though, I get this feeling something’s wrong, and I start to pry and you know how hard it can be to get a man to talk and there’s nothing wrong at all.
What a cute couple. Sounds like they have a great marriage.
With all the statistics about marriage that are out there right now, it’s nice to read about some marriages that are going right. They sound like a great couple.
What a neat idea!
I find its such a great motivator to read about other marriages.
Makes me want to work harder at my own!
It takes allot of work to make a marriage work. I have been married 15 years, and everyday is different. no complaints here.
Oh I am going to love this series. How great! Thanks for sharing this story. Can;t wait to read more.
Its nice to read a “good” story about marriage for a change. Its great to share in the successes of others rather than always looking for the negative (like our media tends to do) Thank you for featuring a happy couple who could overcome obstacles!
Well, it all sounds wonderful and I love the before and after pictures!
These days it is so nice & refreshing to read about happy marriages. Seems to be everywhere you look there is cheating, lying & divorces going on 🙂
What a lovely couple! I wish them all the good in their marriage and years filled with happiness and love!
Aww! This is so touching. I love reading about marriage and spouses still keeping that initial flame alive in their marriage that they had when they first realized they were in love! Thanks so much for sharing about your lives and your marriage!
What a great idea, especially with V-Day around the corner. This inside scoop into another couple’s marriage is interesting and makes me look in the mirror of my own. My husband and I are really happy together and yet are really different people with vastly different personalities. Opposites attract? lol
What a great couple! I love that they have been able to work with their religious differences!
Great interview. It sounds like a great book. My hubby and I are always looking for fantastic marriage resources.
that is so sweet, beautiful wedding picture!
I’m so impressed with how the questions answered all the issues that are prevalent in todays world.
I love this post, so interesting to see what encouraging words work for other couples!
This is so inspiring. A good reminder to keep the love alive even after kids and everyday life
This is great. Good to see what is going on with other realtionships.
It’s nice to hear that I’m not the onloy one who uses texting to stay close to my spouse. When life is busy – it’s quick and easy. But it also lets you know that someone is thinking of you.
Sounds like they’re super committed to maintaining a middle ground for everything. I wish them much joy and happiness!
This such a sweet story!
I do love a good love story and it seems like these two have that whole compromise thing down. 🙂 Thank you for sharing!
I just read the whole interview and it’s quite inspiring and I am really hoping to have a good man to be married with in the future. I’m scared to have a broken family, a lot of my friends family are..who knows. But hopefully!
Pam Margolis good luck to you on your book. I never heard a book on love like this but I thinks both me and wife can be motivated to do one for us, but not now after another five years, let us me more loved among us.
This is a really sweet story! They sound like an amazing couple!
As a newlywed, it’s nice to read these types of things. They seem like a great couple. thanks for sharing!
such a sweet couple! I admire that. I am actually in the process of a divorce by my spouses choice :/
This is a great interview. I like seeing how other couples work together to make their relationship work.
Dating your spouse is so important. WIth all the stresses of life, it is so easy to lose touch with each other.
What a great series! I love it! It’s always nice to read love stories!
Wonderful couple!!! Love reading successful marriage stories..
Thanks for sharing
This was so nice to hear their story, I love to see how other couples interact and get along!
This is so cool! I love taking a glimpse into other people lives!
I loved reading this! Great interview.
They seem like an amazing couple! Thanks for sharing this great interview!
So heartwarming. I envy people whose marriage lasts for lifetimes. My first marriage was a failure and for a long time, I hated weddings. Now that I have a new partner, everything changed. He is so patient with me and loves me despite my flaws. Please keep on writing. I love reading your blog.
Great questions and answers.
I love couples that work…so many people getting divorced these days.
What a sweet love story. It is so nice that you use technology to keep your bond strong. Keep up the texting and messaging.
Hello Pam, SITS girls has placed us together in a tribe….looking forward tot getting to know you…Renee