Just how do you hold your tongue when you are super upset? How do you hold your tongue when you know your spouse has wronged you? Couples will have their share of disagreements in marriage; however, couples must learn techniques to help with anger management.
Marriage is a wonderful covenant. You marry the person that you can’t stop thinking about, the person you can’t stop talking about, and the person that just hearing their name makes you smile.
With joining two “individuals” together to live in harmony under one roof, there is a bound to be some hiccups. Disagreements = 2 people with 2 opinions. Your opinion is important but we must understand when, where, and how to express your opinion.
We are all human and we are subject to bump heads with the one we love; however, don’t allow these disagreements to drive a wedge between you and your spouse.
When there is a disagreement don’t feed the fire with sharp words instead stop, pray, & think.
Remember the ABCs of anger management:
A: Acknowledge the anger
B: Backtrack to where the anger/disagreement began (what triggered the anger/disagreement)
C: Consider the source of the anger (what is really causing you to be angry)
The best thing to remember is there are no winners when there is an argument. Hold your tongue and agree to disagree on this subject.
Never let weak moments (disagreement) take away from the foundation (bond) you & your spouse are building…
Your love is stronger than any disagreement & your marriage is worth more to you than winning an argument.
Will you HOLD YOUR TONGUE the next time you and your spouse are faced with a disagreement? Try it & see how fast the disagreement is dissolved.
NighLon says
This has been one of the biggest challenges in our marriage… learning to pick our battles! Thanks for sharing!
PK says
Its a challenge for me as well, especially when I “think I know” I’m right…LOL
Pamela
roxanna says
I think the one thing that communication class taught me is the use of “I” statements. Rather than ignoring the problem, I have become better at focusing on how I’m feeling rather than pointing fingers and it has really helped our relationship!
kat j says
Great advice as hurtful angry words can leave scars.
clarissa says
I will try this!!! Talk about a challenge for two people that BOTH like to have the last word!! lol. Why not?
Challenge accepted!
Christine SD says
I learned from my parents that an argument will never be resolved if one or both parties are angry. It’s best to stay calm and be positive that you’ll meet halfway and it will be fixed.
PK says
Great advice & role models you have! Thanks for sharing that insightful advice.
Pamela
PK says
LOL Trust me Clarissa I understand. I am definitely one that like to have the last word so its a challenge for me as well.
Pamela
PK says
Yes & we can not take back words that have been uttered…..
Pamela
PK says
I have started utilizing the “I” statements when hubby & I are not seeing eye to eye. It really diffuses the situation.
Pamela
Melissa Lawler says
Great advice for any relationship
stonidee says
Amen! So true! I’ve learned this (the hard way) in my beginning years of marriage. Both hubby & I can be pretty stubborn but I’ve learned that the best route for me to take is to just “shut up & chill” until I’m thinking SENSIBLY & not EMOTIONALLY (as especially us women do). I’m careful not to provoke the dead end of our disagreement into becoming the death of of my marriage. Thnx again for the realness!
PK says
Whoa…such a profound statement: “I’m careful not to provoke the dead end of our disagreement into becoming the death of my marriage.” Wow I love that statement!
Pamela