I’m mad. He’s mad. We both are talking but no one is listening.
Can you relate to that scenario?
The hubby & I use to have heated disagreements (we still have disagreements they are not heated anymore). They would go on & on (seemed like hours).
I would get all emotional & start saying how I feel. Him on the other hand would completely shut down.
It wasn’t until we both shut up that I would realize that we were talking at & over each other instead of talking & sharing with each other.
We had forgotten the golden rule: NEVER discuss something when emotions are high.
We was so focused on “I” instead of “we” that we allowed our own selfish tendencies and defenses to flair up.
Men & women definitely process things differently.
In playing back the incidents, I learned a few things:
1. We are human
2. Feelings are just emotions that can be controlled
3. Even with a disagreement, you must remember your spouse (love) language
4. We can sing at the same time but we cannot talk at the same time
5. Timing is important
Disagreements will happen. Feelings will be hurt. Just don’t allow the disagreements and hurt feelings to carry on & on. Understand it is normal to have disagreements; it’s not healthy to have destructive disagreements.
Know when to fold them (compromise) & when to walk away (end the discussion).
He mad. I’m mad. However, we agree that the disagreement will not destroy our marriage.
How do you handle disagreements in your marriage?
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