This is the week most people will be thinking more and more about love, how they love, and their love life. This is a tough time for some and a joyous times for others. The way we love and how we love is designed from the day we are born. As a husband or wife, it is so important that we understand why we love the way we do and how important it is to love SELF first to be able to love our spouse.
Last week, I partnered with several bloggers to talk about depression during #DayofLife day. This week, I am writing with Caroll Atkins, LoveDesign Life blog, discussing Love and Dating our Spouse.
Life Series: From Designing Love to Dating Spouse
Caroll Atkins author of the “lovestyle” blog LoveDesignLife and Pamela King, co-author of the blog Still Dating My Spouse, have come together to pose deep, thought provoking topics to help you uncover areas in your life that may need attention in order to help free you mentally and emotionally so you can be available to experience that love you so deserve. Throughout this series, Caroll will share thoughts from the single point of view and Pamela will share thoughts from the married point of view.
LoveDesignLife: Who can disagree that to really enjoy life, one must be available to give and yes get really good love? Well, someone who has not found that really good love, that’s who! Another Valentine’s Day is on the horizon and some of you may be wondering, “when will I get that relationship that makes this day a treat to experience instead of a day to dread. “ After all, it is not that you don’t truly believe this, it may just be that you truly don’t know how to get it.
Still Dating My Spouse: The common saying about marriage is “You are one. You and your spouse should be on the same page.” Well that is so true but it’s hard to be on the same page with someone when you don’t know what page you are on as an individual. February is the month of love and much attention is given to marriages and committed individuals; however, for a relationship to have “true” love, the INDIVIDUALS must know how to love themselves to give love and accept love. Just how can an INDIVIDUAL that is expected to bond with their spouse as one, truly love & accept love in life, marriage, and for self?
Well, this weeklong series is meant just for you!
No matter where you are in your journey of living an authentic life, be it that you are trying to know who you truly are and what you were meant to be or if you are further along and know that part of what you are meant to be is a loving mother and wife, this blog series will help to focus you and give you some great guidelines to help get you to your final destination. I encourage you to stick with us all week to see just what we have in store for you. And, if you feel this may help someone else, please do forward them the link.
About the writers:
The lovestyle blog LoveDesignLife, is all about living an authentic life. With a plethora of articles on topics such as learning how to eliminate fears, lies, beliefs, expectations and jealousies and increasing communication, acceptance, willingness to be wrong, and a willingness to be vulnerable, it brings one front and center with their most challenging issues. With solid, no nonsense advice, real life experiences from the writer, and stories of other’s success and failures, this blog goes a long way to helping one realize they are not alone in their struggle and what’s more a loving relationship is within their grasp. You may follow Caroll at LoveDesignLife.
Still Dating My Spouse is a relationship blog all about connection, commitment, and consistency. The topics are relevant, relatable, and realistic which offers the reader information that can be applied as a couple but most importantly as an individual. Marriage is comprised of two individuals that work as one. Pamela and her husband strive to bring tough and challenging topics related to marriage to the forefront that many individuals and marriages face. Marriage is unique but the challenges of marriages are not. Marriage takes a genuine effort on an individual level.
As husbands and wives, it is so important for us to understand exactly why we love the way we do. I am participating in this series to help us horn in on loving ourselves enough to love others Love is such a beautiful emotion and once we truly embrace the love God has instilled in us for our marriage & self, our overall life will benefit.
So I want to invite you to follow this series this week and participate in the Twitter chat on Thursday, February 13 at 9pmEST/8pmCST. Follow #designLove for more details.
Sounds like a great series. Will be helpful.
Sometimes it just seems like it’s impossible to get on the same page, and I feel like that’s when problems happen. BUT, having open communication clearly helps to resolve issues. Thanks for sharing this
Marriage is definitely a give & take. It’s a lot of work, but it’s worth every minute of it 🙂
This sounds very good! I agree that in order to understand your spouse, you really need to understand yourself first!
You’re so right. A bit like Christmas, isn’t it? It’s a tough time for some and a time to celebrate for others. I will check out LoveDesignLife as I do think my husband and I might be able to use a little bit of it.
I love this. My husband and I still date, we do not miss a date night (unless one of us or kids are ill but then we have a rain check). We enjoy the time together and we have time to talk about things and catch up. So important.
I love that you’re doing this series for February, when everyone is already thinking about love and relationships.
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Valentine’s Day is a great time to assess your relationship and figure out if anything needs to be tweaked. We should never take our significant other for granted, and sometimes we slip into that without realizing it.
I need to start dating my spouse. We spend a lot of family time together. I think we need more date nights! I’ll be following. Thanks
I love that! You have to learn how to love yourself before you can love another. Being on the same page as your spouse is so important.
I need all the help I can get with my relationship. I’ll make it a point to follow along!
I feel marriage is a living entity. It grows over the years. Your relationship can not stay the same as it was when your were teens dating when you now have a house full of your own teens. It is important to understand a good relationship involves work.
I need to remember to still date my spouse. I think everyone gets to use to a routine and forgets.
Can’t wait to read the series.
I am enjoying reading your perspectives about love and marriage. It is important to love yourself so you can fully and readily love another. I am a sucker for a happy ending and for me, a love story is not complete without a marriage.
That’s a great point about needing to love yourself first. I’m just getting that all figured out now.
I like the idea of dating your spouse. Life sometimes gets in the way of romance and it is important to remember how you ended up with this person and keeping the spark going.
I absolutely agree with the premise that one must love themselves before they can truly love another. My husband has really struggled with past issues that have him down on himself. He would never admit it, but it is a silent work in progress.
Thanks for sharing– my hubby and I are working on “dating” and communicating more!
I agree! It’s important for both a husband and wife to be healthy individuals with their own interests, as well as have things they like to do together. It makes the relationship more interesting and fun!
I think sometimes I look at it wrong. My husband and I hardly have had time to ourselves with 5 kids and they are little it is hard. I miss it though!
Marriage can be tough at times. I’ve been married for quite some time and it’s really a give and take. We don’t always see eye to eye on a lot of things but compromise does work. Great books!
i feel like our marriage is an artwork in progress. even if the current state isn’t fabulous, we’re still working toward that final work of beauty
Wow, what a great series! I think the key factor to any relationship is to be on the same page. That’s a great starting point and all else will fall into place!