“I have a headache!”
“I’ve worked some long hours this week honey & I’m not in the mood.”
Have you heard or spoken these statements before? Do you feel like your marriage is going through a Love Recession?
Yes, everyday routines can keep us busy and we sometimes fail to connect with our spouse sexually. We must be very mindful not to neglect this vital act in our marriage. Love making is important in maintaining a constant emotional and physical affection with your spouse.
“But I’m so busy providing for my family, keeping house, and running with the kids that I just don’t know how to maintain a healthy sex life.”
First and foremost, you must be willing to set aside sometime for you and your spouse to reconnect physically.
Even with all the things we have on our plate, there is no need to be in a Love Recession.
How to get out of a Love Recession?
- Be spontaneous
- Be romantic. Make your spouse feel appreciated & love. Romantic gestures include, but not limited to, giving just because gifts, night off from dealing with the kids, candlelight dinner, etc.
- Start touching & caressing each other…hold hands, rub his/her back, massage their feet
- Initiate Foreplay
- Learn your spouse sex signals/language
- Set the mood…
- Cuddle
- Communicate your sexual desires
- Get the babies out your bed!
- Sex your spouse mind with erotic messages, texts, & conversation!
Choose one or all of the ideas above to maintain sexual harmony within your marriage. This can be accomplished by love, respect, and compromise, but it’s up to you to put forth the effort to get your sex life out of recession.
Seriously, whatever you do don’t allow the intimacy in your marriage to slack. If the above ideas don’t work and you have tried other ideas, talk to your spouse openly and calmly (but at the right time) about what you are feeling. Communication is vital in any relationship but definitely when it comes to your sex life.
Be proactive not reactive!
What can you do to get your marriage out of a Love Recession?
Related articles and resources
- How Much Sex is “Normal”? (mapenzinandoa.wordpress.com)
- Sex Secrets of Happy Couples (warmsouthernbreeze.wordpress.com)
- Why is Knowing My Love Language Important? (marriagemechanic.wordpress.com)
- Sexless Marriage (Podcast) (Dr. Love show)
courtney ann (@appletreemke) says
great post! my husband and I are getting back to a healthy marriage after a year of hell! We were seperated last year and by the grace of God we are on a strong road to recovery- and let me tell you sex is important to having a healthy marriage!
PK says
Praise God you guys are back together. Yes sex is important.
Pamela