Sex in the beginning of marriage is hot, long, wanted, and gotten. After years of marriage, kids, work, and just life in general, sex becomes less and less. It’s not that husbands and wives don’t want to have sex with their spouse but when you are faced with exhaustion after a day of completing your responsibility, you just don’t have the energy or desire to get “sexy” for your spouse. The sad thing is, many couples does allow exhaustion to push any form of physical contact with their spouse to the back burner.
Sex is needed in marriage. Sex is important in marriage. The sexual connection to your spouse connects you emotionally and physically. But let’s be real, with the way most people work, kids at home, and just plain ole life, we lose that sexual connection and desire.
This is why we must be intentional to connect sexually with our spouse. You may not have time for a long drawn out sex’capes but you do have time for a QUICKie sex encounter with your spouse.
Why Quickies are important to your marriage
Quickies are just that quick. They are fun, refreshing, and fast! Quickies offers the couple an opportunity to bond with their spouse, relieve stress, & hopefully put them in a better mood QUICKLY.
Quickies are not meant to remove sensuality and intimacy. Kissing is always a great way to start the fire & keep the fire going. So don’t negate the important aspects of physical connection with your spouse. Kissing, caressing, and sensual talk is always a plus! Quickies are about both of you, not just him or her, but both of you!
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Quickies are not meant to replace love making nor intimacy. Quickies are in “addition” to your love making sessions.
The Dynamics of Implementing Sexual Quickies in YOUR Marriage
1. Get in the mood
Flirting is a good way to arouse the sexual pique. Set the stage with your spouse by flirting throughout the day or at that moment. Talk sexy or even send your spouse a sexy text…better yet just send them a text saying “I need you. Give me 10 minutes & I will definitely make you smile.”
2. Be Spontaneous
Quickies are not planned! But again let’s be real. With young kids, you just may have to plan a quickie.
3. Be creative
Just as with any physical contact with your spouse, don’t be a robot. Be creative. Think outside the box.
There was an episode of 7 Days of Sex where a couple life was very hectic and they had small children. For them stealing away a few moments of quiet time/quickies/alone time together was far and few in between. So they devised a plan one day to steal away time. They decided to play hide & go seek with the kids. The kids count & they hide. This was a fun game for the kids & they was actually able to get away for a few seconds/minutes & passionate kiss & have some alone time. So think outside the box.
Time or lack of time is the reason why you are having a quickie, but keep in mind there is no right or wrong time of day for a quickie. How about early morning? Sneak away from lunch and meet for a quickie. Or while the kids are watching their favorite program, you and your spouse can engage in some quick sex.
5. Location, Location
Sex is not limited to the bedroom. Experiment with different locations. The excitement of maybe having sex in a location that is not your bed or your home could drive the excitement of the quickie to a new height. The possibilities are endless: bathroom, movie theater, your garage, your walk-in closet, etc. (Be mindful of your surroundings and remember indecent exposure…) LOL
I challenge you to initiate a quickie. Steal away sometime today to physically connect with your spouse. Don’t make it a big production. Jump in the shower with them & have a quickie. Put the kid’s favorite cartoon on & time your session to the length of their movie/show. Take 15 minutes away from surfing the internet and have a quickie with your spouse.
What is a place you would like to make love to your spouse?
Day 1: Fresh Start
Day 2: Communication
Day 3: Flirt with your Spouse
Day 5: Social Media
Day 6: Its Time for a Change
Day 7: Positive Affirmations
Day 8: The Notebook
Day 9: Get Physical
Day 10: Sharing is Caring
Day 11: Addictions
Day 12: Gift Giving
Day 13: Your Spouse BFF
Day 14: Date Your Spouse
Definitely could make for an interesting 2 wks.
jennifer zuna says
Really great post!
Thanks for sharing ideas for keeping the marriage fresh!
Hard work here…but it does pay off in the end. Like your daily tips Pam. Thanks
Kristin Wheeler (MamaLuvsBooks) says
It’s definitely important to stay intimately connected! =) Even just briefly!!! =)
Alethea Etinoff says
Thank you for the reminder of quickies.