Most married houses are bilingual. I know when my husband and I first got married it seemed like we were definitely speaking a different language. I was speaking the language of a “woman” and he was speaking the language of a “man.” We were basically sounding like Charlie Brown mom “wha wha wha wha.”
No one understood or even heard what the other one was saying and/or needed. It is only because we were speaking a language of “I” instead of the language of “we.”
We had to veer our language skills to include the language of each other. This is not an easy task but guess what we spoke the same language when we were dating. When we were courting our potential spouse we paid close attention to the things that was pleasing to them but for some reason when we said “I Do” we fail to continue to learn our spouse language.
We all have heard that good effective communication is an essential part of a strong healthy marriage. You cannot have a strong healthy marriage if you and your spouse are speaking a different language.
5 Ways to improve the language in your marriage:
- Practice active listening
- Say what you actually mean…don’t drop hints…be specific!
- Check and double check your attitude, tone, and body language when talking to/with your spouse
- Be honest
- Keep talking…
How can you improve the language that is spoken in your house? Share your ideas and suggestions in the comment box.