Now, normally, I don’t get caught up in celebrity gossip but when it involves a husband and wife, I definitely try to pay attention only because so many couples model their relationship or marriage off what they see the celebrities are doing. So to hear about Karrine Steffans Short and Columbus Short having a marital issue and it is playing out on social media, I immediately knew I needed to address this.
Last night, Karrine Steffans, the wife of Columbus Short, went on an online rampage publicly accusing her husband of cheating on her. She started on Twitter and ended up on Instagram.
When we go so far as to create a video and post it online to embarrass and emasculate our husbands, we need to pull back and get ourselves together.
You okay @officialcshort? A video posted by Mrs. Karrine Short (@karrineandco) on
Karrine and Columbus are newlyweds and still trying to figure things out and to now have to deal with the possibility of infidelity after only six months of marriage is disheartening.
Karrine and Columbus are not the only married couple that feels the sting of being married. The disruptive distractions that come in to steal, kill and destroy our marriage cannot be attached to our disruptive behavior in dealing with the issues.
When we are faced with infidelity, a spouse is not only dealing with the fact that their spouse went out and fucked someone else but the fact that the trust in the marriage is now broken. And the spouse is feeling a level of betrayal that most of us NEVER WANT TO EXPERIENCE.
The emotions a cheated on spouse feels is REAL AND RAW. We are witnessing this in the actions of Karrine; however, we cannot allow those emotions to control you and have you reacting in a disruptive manner as well.
3 Steps to dealing with infidelity
1. First and the most important step: Get clear on what you have found out. You must deal with the facts and not “speculations.” Be protective of the information you share and allow others to share with you. You don’t want people’s personal “opinions” to cloud your judgment and thoughts.
2. Allow for a cooling off period: As hard as I know you want to pull a Karrine Steffans (throw all your husband clothes out, blast his ass on social media) this isn’t the right time or the right action. You have the absolute right to ask your spouse to leave the house while you guys sort through this new chapter of your marriage.
3. Decide on a plan of action: Infidelity doesn’t have to be the death of your marriage but only you can make that decision. If you decide to stay with your spouse, you guys must have an open and honest conversation about the situation and how you will not get to this place again. We know marriages can be restored. Tina and Teddy Campbell proved that to us. If you decide the marriage is over, get your marriage business in order. Don’t attack and do things to get back at your spouse, end the marriage the right way in the courtroom.
Infidelity is hard to digest. Infidelity destroys the trust and bond a couple has. Infidelity is the act of a selfish partner. Infidelity HURTS!
Listen, you don’t have to let infidelity win. You don’t have to let infidelity destroy your marriage. And you definitely shouldn’t allow infidelity to cause you to go on a social media rant about your spouse.
Take time to digest what is happening. Take time for YOU.
The world doesn’t need an open seat to your marriage in a 140 characters or less! And they damn shole don’t need a picture story of what is happening in your marriage.
Stay off social media airing your marriage dirty laundry. Use this time to gather yourself. Pray. And eventually have a rational conversation with your spouse.
Tweet me & let me know how you feel about sharing marital issues on social media.