Marriage is a beautiful union. We entered our wide eyed and bushy tailed. We had big hopes and dreams that the love and affection we showed during courtship and the first few years of our marriage before life began to take a toll on us. From completing college, to having babies, to starting a career, to maintaining a home our marital relationship falls to the wayside. So this week we will take a few steps back and revisit why, how, and when we got married. So I’m challenging you to take the steps to recommit and reclaim your marriage. For All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.- Romans 3:23-24 To even begin to recommit to our marriage, we must understand who the head of our marriage is-Jesus. You thinking but my marriage have changed. It is not the same as it was when we first got married. You are absolutely right. Your marriage has changed. You have changed. Your … [Read more...]
Juggling the Kids and Spouse
“Letting Go” isn’t an easy task but something we must do! This week I’m opening the flood gates. Yes, these posts will have you thinking and reevaluating your circle, your actions, and your motives. Today, it’s all about the kiddies. When you got married, it was you and your spouse. You guys were inseparable. You spent every moment you could together and if you weren’t together you were talking on the phone. What happened? Let me tell you: KIDS! We love the kids. They are definitely heaven sent but as parents, we extend our duties base the cutoff date. Kids are to be a blessing to any relationship but when every waking moment, every action, every conversation is about the kids (whether it’s about the toddlers, tweens, teens, or adult children) there is a problem. Follow me on this one: when all of your waking moments are consumed with the “kids” stuff when do you have time for your spouse, for yourself, or for your marriage? Now, don’t get me … [Read more...]
Letting Go
Letting Go…. Hmmm when you hear those words you probably shaking your head and saying yep Let Go, but it’s not as easy as saying the words. We are always talking about the mother who needs to let go and allow her son to grow up and be a man in his marriage, but what about the child who won’t let go? We need to stop and think about the fact that most mothers/parents only do what their child allow them to do. Start shifting the blame where it belongs: with your spouse. Husbands and wives get your mother/father out of your marriage. You cannot have a happy marriage with the third party is someone other than God. Mom and dad have their own marriage, life, and/or relationship to tend to and your marriage should not be one of them. Remember God said “a man shall leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife. “ This statement is so important that it is mentioned three times in the bible: Gen. 2:24, Mark 10: 7, and Matt. 19:5. If God repeat this message … [Read more...]
Date Night Idea: Movie Night Marvels the Avengers
You guys know we love movies. We own over 300 DVDs and we will go to the theater three to four times a month to watch a newly released movie. We are so excited that Marvels the Avengers movie will be in theaters May 4. Now let me be honest with you, I wasn't a big comic book reader when I was a little girl but the hubby loved his comic books. So you know he is overly excited (my words) that this movie is being released. Don't get me wrong, I'm excited as well because he has brought me up to speed about each character and I have been watching the movie trailers for The Avengers. Going to the movie is a good date night idea. You are not able to talk during the movie but you do have the opportunity afterwards to talk about the movie and share what you thought about it. She during the after movie date night activity, I get to really show the hubby how I embraced something he likes and gain me some brownie points *wink wink*. I'm really excited about this movie that I agreed to give my … [Read more...]
Don’t Cheat Your Spouse
I had the privilege of attending a Bloggy Bootcamp this past weekend in St. Louis, MO. I had a wonderful time and made some great connections. One of the sessions talked about work/life balance. We all are aware that to have a successful happy healthy family life we must have a blance between work and family time. You guys know I am the spokesperson for Qualtity Time with our spouses. One of the speakers mentioned to the attendees, mostly women, that they need to make sure they are giving their husbands his time. I wholeheartdly agree with this statement; however, the speaker went on to say schedule sex and if you must drink some wine to get through it, then do what you have to do! HOLD UP!! WRONG!! DON'T CHEAT YOUR SPOUSE If you feel the need to consume alcohol to have sexual relations with your spouse you are cheating them and yourself. Our spouse will know if we are willing and wanting to connect with them physically or we are just going through the motions. If you get … [Read more...]
Playful #DateNight ideas
It is Hump Day and you know what that means…Its time to start thinking about our date night this week. I wanted to do something different this week and give you guys some visual of some fun playing date night ideas. Don’t get in a boring routine when planning your date nights. The purpose of dating our spouse is for connection, fun, and bonding. . . Let’s think outside the box this week. No restaurant dates…No movie dates! The weather is breaking so let’s start PLAYING! 5 Playful Date Night Ideas: Have a water gun fight and a picnic in the park (this is also fun in your backyard). Go roller skating-just know you may fall down again the laughs and the quality time will be priceless. Fly a Frisbee. We had the pleasure of having a special Frisbee made just for us from Send a Flying Card. The Frisbee has Still Dating My Spouse on it. We had so much fun throwing the Frisbee to each other but let me tell you, you will definitely get a workout in (smile). Go … [Read more...]
Opportunity Exist
Yep, you read the title right: Opportunity will exist. Do you take advantage of the opportunity to build on your marital foundation? In marriage, we must cease every opportunity to make our marriage better and stronger. We are placed in situations that will test our foundation. How we respond or react will determine just how strong our marital foundation is. You and your spouse are different in many ways. Those differences are a blessing and a curse. Remember God made a male and female and he gave each their own unique qualities; however, sometimes these differences will have us at odds with each other. One good point to remember is our spouse had these differences when we were dating so their actions are nothing new. We adapted when we were dating but somehow once we said I Do we gave up on adapting and compromising. 5 Ways to Handle Spousal Differences: Use your differences as a positive instead of a negative. Recognize and understand what it is about your spouse that … [Read more...]
Now What
So you guys have gotten married. You’ve had a couple of off-springs and you have purchased the house with the white picket fence. Now what do you guys do? I’m glad you asked the question. If you are feeling like you guys have done what you were supposed to in marriage, then the first thing you to do NOW is realize that there is much more to marriage then kids and house. Let me ask you a few questions to get you to thinking about your marriage: How strong is your foundation? What goals do you and your spouse have for your marriage? What is the game plan once the children are gone? Do you truly know your spouse? Have you taken the time to learn their likes, dislikes, and wishes? Most importantly, do you have a true understanding on what God design for marriage is? If you are not able to answer these questions, then your Now What task is to devise a plan for your marriage to understand these 5 questions and have an answer for them. However, this is not an … [Read more...]
I Love Dating My Spouse Prizes Giveaway
It is time to enter to win the prizes for the I Love Dating My Spouse Giveaway. Originally, this contest was for video submissions; however, I have learned that the husbands are not that eager to get in front of a camera. That's OK, because I know they are dating their wives (because I see the tweets). In due time, I will get those husbands in front of the camera but until then there is no reason why you guys couldn't win the lovely prizes that my sponsors have donated. So please enter to win all the lovely prizes...There will be only ONE winner. a Rafflecopter giveaway You need javascript enabled to see this giveaway. … [Read more...]
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