Lately, I’ve been reading post after post of couples questioning their marriage, their spouse intent and even themselves. We all have those moments where we ask What if…? It’s normal and we all, me included, have been there and done that.
Any marriage can get caught up in the day to day pressures of family and trying to make a living. In putting in the daily work to have a happy and healthy marriage, you wonder if the work is worth it.
Your thoughts may tell you to give up because things just may not get better but What if it does?
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Years of your life are spent in school preparing to obtain the job you want or the career you want to pursue. If you wanted to excel in sports, art or singing, you were willing to work at it and spend endless hours practicing. It wasn’t work – it was a joy.
Whatever your dream, nothing would stop you from tirelessly working to achieve your goal even if it meant foregoing certain pleasures and taking extra classes. You studied and read every book you could find to help you get better and eventually become the person you wanted to be.
Marriage should be approached with just as much zeal. Unfortunately, most people who try their hand at marriage think it’s a learn as you go project. They “wing it” on a day-to-day basis and fail to see the mistakes made along the way until it ends in separation or divorce.
Marriage is not taken seriously anymore or at least not for long. As soon as the passion and dedication of the wedding vows fade into the bliss of the honeymoon, couples say well if it doesn’t work out it’s no big deal to go our separate ways.
Enter into the sanctity of marriage knowing that it’s a lifetime commitment. Together you can accomplish so much more than alone. It will take work and self sacrifice. The marriage highway is filled with bumps and potholes but it’s a trip worth taking and may be the best journey of your life.
So what if you don’t give up easily and work diligently on crafting your role as a husband or wife?
What if you gave your problems over to God and allowed Him to work in you and for you?
What if you improved the communication in your marriage?
What if you got rid of the negative thoughts and replaced them with a can do attitude?
What if you just started dating your spouse again and treated them like the jewel they were to you at the beginning of the relationship?
Some of these are easier to commit to than others but the commitment to your marriage, your spouse and your family is important. I’ve doubted myself, my husband and even my marriage in the last 17 years but one thing I never allowed my doubts to do is: make me give up on what I wanted and what I know my marriage gives to me.
So yes, you will ask what if…? but the good thing about those types of questions, you have the control over the answer and outcome.
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