Honestly, I wrestled with this question for years. As a wife & mother, if anyone would ask me “what makes you happy” I would immediately say my husband and kids.
But, what happens when your normal isn’t normal anymore and your happiness is tied into people or things?
Let me tell you that’s not a good feeling. I know because unfortunately, I’m back at that place, AGAIN.
I’m having to reevaluate that question Ahhh-GAIN.
Life is funny. God is funnier.
We expend energy into making sure everyone around us is taken care of that we fail to take care of us.
You know I’m big on telling couples, especially wives, to take care of self & nurture their own interests.
Well, I’ll be damn that I haven’t been doing what I preach.
I mean, I did try! Honestly, I did but I did put myself on the back burner to help my husband launch his trucking business.
Now that his business is up & running & the hubby is busy “trucking” I’m left to myself.
Have you ever been alone in a quiet home & just felt out of place?
Well, I have & that shit isn’t the bizness. I mean, what do you do?
So you spend a couple of days and, for some, months asking yourself: “What do I like to do for me & with me?”
Damn? Who am I? What makes me happy?
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Let me tell y’all something, it took me awhile to answer those questions & be okay with being home alone.
I remembered that I like crafts and gardening.
Well, it’s too hot to garden & all these West Nile bug diseases are keeping me in the house.
So, what can I do?
I totally forgot how much I love to sew. I’m not a Vera Wang or even a Mimi G, but I enjoy the time creating.
I enjoy challenging myself in designing something that came from my hands via a needle.
Sewing! Well damn, I do have something to do for me and with me.
I joined a sew-a-long. You can join us as well. The sew-a-long is hosted on Ella Russell Facebook page.
Oh yes! Let’s do this. I went to Hancock Fabrics, who by the way is going out of business, and purchased fabric and patterns.
Now, I’m all geeked up and ready to do me.
I spread everything out & get to cutting.
I thread needles. Get the measuring tape. Put on some good music & begin to sew.
Now, my fashions will not be shown on Project Runway or even Memphis Fashion Week, but my fashions will give me joy & time to spend with me.
I caution you to be aware of what makes you happy.
Oh and as quiet as it’s kept, I’m getting me one of these travel sewing machines so I can sew & go “trucking” with the hubby.
I want you to nurture your happiness. Don’t allow your happiness to be based on just your marriage and kids.
Tell me: What makes you HAPPY?
You too can Create this Look
-Pattern: Simplicity 1186
-Fabric: purchased at Hancock
I would love to see your creations, whether it’s via sewing, gardening, scrapbook (oh I love to scrapbook) or whatever brings you happiness. Tag me on Instagram: @datingmyspouse and use hashtag: #CreateAHappyMe