Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.-Proverbs 15:4
Communication is the sharing of information verbally and non-verbally.
We enter marriage with a communication style that worked for us as a single person. Before marriage, we rarely put much thought into communicating as a couple or communicating with our spouse on a daily basis.
I know from my own personal experience, after saying “I Do” I realized my husband and I were on two different communication levels. I didn’t notice it when we were dating because you know when you dating everything they say is cute and you really not paying attention to the communication differences; however the absence of effective healthy communication can break a relationship.
Communication and marriage goes hand and hand; however, many couples lack the proper knowledge on how to communicate effectively. Without this level of communication, couples run the risk of displaying unhealthy ways of expressing their feelings and thoughts.
Communication in marriage is like the bridge that connects two sides. When a husband and wife cannot communicate properly and effectively, the bridge begin to collapse. This causes strife and stress between them and everything they attempt to do suffers.
Join me this week in the marriage series on Communication. I will post 5 discussions on Communication in marriage starting with today’s post.
The remaining series topics are:
Tuesday: Communication is important in Marriage
Wednesday: Date Night Ideas: Communication Special Edition
Thursday: Problems in Communicating
Friday: 5 Effective Ways to Communicate
Get a pad and pencil ready for this week Communication series. I invite you to share with me any communication concerns you may have.
View this video and let me know if you can relate to what this couple is experiencing.
Share in the comments the communication style you had when you got married. What style would your spouse say you had?
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Resources around the web:
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Heather ~ Acting Balanced Mom says
It’s funny, my hubby and I communicate differently now because of technology – we both have blogs and sometimes our communication even takes the form of commenting on each other’s posts… we talk face to face, on the phone, by skype and even by texting too… but the best communication still happens when we get time away…
Nicole (Mama to 4 Blessings) says
can’t wait to read the date night ideas!
Ellen Christian says
Looking forward to read more about this! I’m not sure I gave much thought to communication at all when I first got married.
Julie M. says
I can’t wait for this! Thanks for sharing…everyone can always use help with communication!!
melissa says
This is so important. I know we sometimes get lost in the day to day operations but it so vitally important, to sit down and make communication a priority!
Kristin W says
Woohoo! I am excited for this!
Teresha says
This post is so on the money! My husband and I still run into communication issues after 12 years of marriage. We started using I messages to get past the hurdles
Felissa (Two Little Cavaliers) says
Communication with your spouse is so important to a healthy relationship.
Kristen Jeffery says
My spouse and I have learned to communicate better throughout the years. And we are still dating after almost 11 years!!
Renee @ Made By Renee says
my husband and I are very different but have learned how to communicate effectively – love is about choice & and action.
kat j says
You are so right. The lines of communication must stay open for a marriage to work. I think men and women, in general have different ideas on what communication is. It so so great that you are offering this advice to married couples.
Still Dating My Spouse says
Renee,
The positive thing is: you guys have found what works for your marriage and using it effectively! Thanks for stopping by and please stop by again.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Kristen,
Hey dating is just like fine wine, its gets better with time. So keep dating and communicating and watch what God does in your marriage.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Teresha,
My husband and I will have communication issues every now and again. We use texting as a way to communicate when it seems like we are at crossroad.
Thanks for stopping by and please stop by again.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Heather,
My husband and I are the same way. We definitely use technology to our advantage. We love talking via twitter! The main thing is to keep talking by any means necessary.
Thanks for stopping by and please stop by again.
Pamela
Nicole Taylor says
This is so on time and on point! I’m only 6 months into my marriage and I am in shock at how off the communication is between my husband and I. You’re so right, we don’t notice these things when we’re dating becasue everything seems so perfect! I have a degree in communication so I have been whipping out all the stops to help work it out. I will be adding this series to the pot of helpful material. Thank you!
Still Dating My Spouse says
Nicole,
We think we have mastered communicating with our spouse but one thing for sure as we age and the number of years of marriage increase, our communication style changes.
Thanks for dropping by.
Pamela