I had the privilege of attending a Bloggy Bootcamp this past weekend in St. Louis, MO. I had a wonderful time and made some great connections.
One of the sessions talked about work/life balance. We all are aware that to have a successful happy healthy family life we must have a blance between work and family time. You guys know I am the spokesperson for Qualtity Time with our spouses.
One of the speakers mentioned to the attendees, mostly women, that they need to make sure they are giving their husbands his time. I wholeheartdly agree with this statement; however, the speaker went on to say schedule sex and if you must drink some wine to get through it, then do what you have to do!
HOLD UP!! WRONG!! DON’T CHEAT YOUR SPOUSE
If you feel the need to consume alcohol to have sexual relations with your spouse you are cheating them and yourself.
Our spouse will know if we are willing and wanting to connect with them physically or we are just going through the motions. If you get to the point that you are only able to be intimate with your spouse on just one specific day or time then there is another problem and of course there is no balance there.
You seriously need to reevaluste the tasks that you have on your plate. You are taking on to much which is causing you to slight you and your spouse quality time.
Don’t cheat yourself or your spouse. Here are a few suggestions to get yourself in the mood to be initimate with your spouse:
1. Be spontenous
2. Set a end time for all work related activities. Do not bend that rule at all!
3. Change scenery.
4. Get some sexy lingerie. Put on make-up..We all know when we look sexy we feel sexy.
5. Fulfill a fantasy!
Whatever you do don’t cheat your spouse by giving them charity quality time or sex. Connecting with our spouse should be top priority. If you need to rearrange somethings to remove them off your to do list, in order for you to be more available and willing, then do it!
How are you making sure you don’t cheat your spouse?
Rhonda Parrish says
How horrible! The idea that there is someone out there advising women to deceive their partners? Ugh. Lametastic.
~ Rhonda Parrish
Still Dating My Spouse says
Rhonda,
Yep, I know she didn’t mean any harm but I just can’t get with drinking just to have sex with my spouse. Thanks for stopping by.
Pamela
John Wilder says
I can’t tell you how many women have beat me up when I visit other sites for suggesting #4. They call me a pervert among other things. This is because sadly churches teach little girls that sex is bad, dirty and wrong and that good girls don’t do it. This often leaves women with a permanent sense of ambivalence over their sexuality.
The churches never teach the sex positive messages from the Bible including telling us to have a great sex life.
Still Dating My Spouse says
John,
You know this will be an ongoing problem. All we can do is try to continue to give good information and provide our readers with information about sex and help them to understand that it is not bad but something wonderful when shared between a husband and wife.
Pamela
Debbie says
Pamela, great advise. Deceiving anyone is never the way to go.
Rosemary says
I agree, faking it is not a good idea. Not only does it cheat your spouse, it cheats you! The person who fakes enthusiasm or satisfaction in order to please their spouse may have good intentions, but they never give the spouse the opportunity to learn how to help them get their fair share of enjoyment from lovemaking.
Amy @ Oh So Savvy Mom says
Hahaha. I had to laugh when I read her suggestion. It was more of an “I can’t believe she suggested such blatantly bad for your relationship. Not only are you cheating your spouse, but you are also depriving yourself of enjoying your time with your spouse. If you don’t enjoy making love to your spouse because you’re too busy with your blog then you’ve got to change the way you’re doing things. I blog mostly at night after my kids go to bed. My husband has to go to work early in the mornings so that means I need to prepare ahead of time if I want to spend intimate time with my husband. Sometimes I just let my work go undone til the morning. I don’t mind. My husband, and my relationship with him, is much more important than my blog will ever be.
Still Dating My Spouse says
Amy,
You are so right: the husband and marriage should be top priority. Yes I was a little taken back by the comment. I hope there is not many spouses who are cheating their spouses due to this mentality.
Thanks for stopping by!
Pamela