I am a little late in watching the premiere of VH-1 show Couples Therapy. The show takes a Dr. Drew Celebrity Rehab spin by offering couples (married and dating) an opportunity to attend a highly structured in house therapy sessions to “fix” their relationships.
The show will feature five couples: DMX and, his wife, Tashera Simmons, Linda Hogan (Hulk Hogan ex-wife) & her boyfriend Charlie Hill (29 year age difference), Chris Nirschel (“The Next Food Network Star”) & his girlfriend, Angelina Pivarnick (Jersey Shore fame), Kasey Kahl (from the Bachelorette) & her boyfriend Vienna Girardi (from The Bachelor) and last but not least, boyfriends Reichen Lehmkuhl & Rodiney Santiago (The A-List: New York). They will be receiving therapy and guidance from Dr. Jenn Berman (from the Berman and Berman show).
Let me just say my mouth was wide open in disbelief watching this show. I am so aware that couples, regardless of economic status, are plagued with troubles in their relationship. No marriage or relationship is immune to trials and tribulations.
Each of these couples, just like us, have their own unique issues that they are hoping Dr. Berman is able to help them with. The one thing that stood out to me in this week episode is the relationship between DMX and his wife.
The first red flag to me was the fact that they are still legally married but have been separated for 6 years. Then after finding out their living arrangements during the therapy sessions, DMX was angry to find out that he had to share a room with his wife. He stated, “We have a great relationship. I like her as a friend.” WTH?! You like her as a friend ONLY! What about love her as your wife, love her as your soul mate, love her as your life partner?
As married couples, we shouldn’t just like our spouse as a friend but we must love them as our spouse, our supporter, our BFF. A married relationship goes deeper than friendship. It was so evident to me that DMX does not respect his wife as his wife. He clearly has some deep rooted relationship issues that must be handled before this family can heal.
Getting married does not remove the pain and the hurt that someone has experienced. Bringing baggage into a marriage only hinders the couple from building a SOLID FOUNDATION. Until you are able to remove the baggage and the things that have hurt you, you are unable to truly unconditionally love your spouse.
The premise of this show, Couples Therapy, is to put these couples in a controlled environment to confront their demons and to remove the baggage in order to heal their marriages and/or relationships. This premise needs to happen in many of our marriages today. No you are not on a celebrity reality show but your marriage is just as important and it would behoove you to seek professional counseling if you are carrying around any baggage that is hindering your marriage from growing, getting healthy and getting stronger.
What baggage do you need to let go of?
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Krys Talley says
I absolutely agree with your article! Love it. You’re right, just because you get married doesn’t mean that issues will automatically start to disappear or get better. I had my mouth open as well because I was disappointed that their marriage was so full of contention. I really hope they get to a better place as individuals as a couple. Like you said on my post, I wouldn’t want anyone to just leave their marriage, especially if it’s because one of them is sick (physically or emotionally) so I am praying they work this out…
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