My weekly favorite past time is watching the VH-1 reality show, Couples Therapy. Tonight was no different. I really liked the show tonight because it actually stepped on my toes.
In marriage we begin to think we know our spouse and can predict everything they will say and do so we “JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS” about certain situations.
One of the couples tonight, snooped through their significant other phone and read a text and assumed what the situation was. By jumping to conclusion, their relationship was put to the test and is feeling the wrath of not asking the right questions and allowing your spouse to answer.
We must remember that everything that glitters isn’t gold. So what we think we may know we actually don’t know.
Put away childish behavior.-1 Cor. 13:11
When we speculate something, read or hear something that we don’t understand we should talk to our spouse about what we think is going on and allow them to explain. In talking with our spouse, we must release any preconceived ideas and comeback statements.
Assuming only leads to stress and disagreements. Talking about how and what you are feeling is always best. Don’t allow things to fester inside and then blow up just because you assume that you knew what your spouse was thinking or doing.
Remember getting all caught up in your feelings and getting loud and mad will not make the situation better nor will it give you the answers you need. So calm down, breath and ask God to give you the words and the calmness you need to address what you “think” you know.
5 Ways to Handle an Assumptions:
- Allow your spouse to answer each and every question you ask.
- Use your effective listening skills
- Don’t form a comeback statement while your spouse is talking
- Once your spouse answers the question don’t continue asking the same thing over and over
- End the talk with saying “Hone I love you and our marriage is bigger than this hiccup.”
In whatever you do, don’t allow your assumptions to control your feelings and actions. Talk about it, get your answers, and let it go. Don’t harbor it!
What is another way to handle assumptions?
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sharkbytes says
That works well when both people use it. I’m trying to visit all the A-Z Challenge Blogs this month.
Misha says
Never been in a situation like that, but your way sounds best. 🙂
Emily Ann Selden says
“what you “think” you know.” Love this line especially because this gets us all into trouble in so many situations. Great to find you through A-Z! 🙂
Still Dating My Spouse says
Thanks Emily for stopping by…
Pamela