Gobble Gobble! That is sound of the Thanksgiving turkey.
The holiday is here so you know what that means: your to do list gets longer and your days are busier. With the longer days and busier to do list, means that we must be mindful of our interactions with our spouse.
Some relationships are hit hard during the holidays and struggle to recover. Don’t allow this one day to destroy your marriage.
Signs that your relationship is suffering from holiday stresses:
- Your 24 hour days feel like 28 hours
- You guys are having disagreements about normal day to day activities
- You are on edge even after having your daily dose of caffeine
- Not eating
- Deliberately avoiding each other
How to deal with holiday stressors:
- Learn to say NO-do not take on more than you can handle
- Get plenty of rest, at least 6 hours of sleep every night
- Eat-make sure you are eating and eating healthy meals/snacks
- Discuss with your spouse/partner about holiday finances, holiday get-togethers, and visits with family and in-laws. Discuss your game plan and stick with it.
- Schedule quiet quality time with your spouse/partner. Make it a weekly activity so you have something to look forward to after spending so much time with extended family.
The most important thing you guys must remember, the holiday is just ONE day! You will be together many more days so do not allow an event with outsiders (friends and family) to stress your marriage, your finances, or your patience.
If what you are doing is not making you and your spouse/partner happy then don’t do it!
Chasing Joy says
I’m not married but this all sounds like great advice to me. The best advice is at the end. “If what you are doing is not making you and your spouse/partner happy then don’t do it!” This is year round good advice.
Alyssa McVey (Giveaway Overload) says
Those are very wise words! It’s very important to realize when things are getting tense and to take a time out to be alone for a while and reevaluate what’s going on. Great marriages aren’t problem-free, but they consist of couple who know how to work through the problems.