We have always heard the saying “Keep your hands to yourself.” However, in recent news, head-butting is the topic of discussion.
Spousal abuse on any level, including head-butting, is not acceptable. Over the weekend, Chad Johnson, was arrested for head-butting his wife. There is never a reason for putting your hands or head on your spouse in a painful and hurtful manner.
Why would things get to the point that you must put your hands or head on your spouse?
There are times when you and your spouse will not agree; this is expected. Merging two people from different views and backgrounds would cause a few hiccups in the marriage. When things begin to go south, that is when you should be man or woman enough to STOP talking and just take a break from the discussion.
Ways to diffuse a hostile situation:
- Stay calm
- Remove yourself from the situation
- Be quiet & just listen
- Table the discussion until both are able to talk and interact as adults
- Set a timer and only talk when it’s your turn to talk
Regardless of what is going on, you NEVER have a reason to hurt your spouse physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.
If you find yourself always resorting to hollering, cursing, and physical contact when having a discussion with your spouse, then it’s time to seek outside help. Don’t damage your marriage foundation because you are too hot headed to realize that something is wrong.
Effective communication in marriage is vital. Effective communication is not threat-ful or hurtful. If you and your spouse are unable to communicate without hurting each other, then write! No seriously, this is something you need to work on. Your marriage cannot prosper if you do not have a positive communication outlet with your spouse.
Decide today, that your marriage is worth more than a head-butt. Decide today, that your spouse means more to you than winning an argument. Decide today to be the man/woman or husband/wife, God has instructed you to be.
This is not an unattainable goal- DECIDE TODAY!
How do you diffuse a hostile discussion with your spouse?
Call Me What You Want Even Cheap says
People actually still head butt? Omg! What are we in preschool? That’s just crazy!
Monique says
I couldn’t imagine hitting my fiance and couldn’t imagine him doing that to me. When we have disagreements it’s always better when we step away and cool down. I’ll go to the bedroom and calm down and think about why I’m upset. Once we are calm we can have a normal conversation about it. Plus, we just can’t stay mad at each other for too long–it’s impossible!