We are all on the lookout for the obvious things/people that can destroy our relationship/marriage. We try to keep out the outsiders from putting their two cents into our marriage. We try to make sure we spend quality time with our spouse. We try to make sure we are building a solid foundation by communicating properly with our spouse.
But what about the silent relationship killers?
You may be wondering what a silent relationship killer is. I’m talking about illnesses; whether it is mental, physical, or emotional. These silent killers can destroy a marriage.
Are you really prepared to stick with your spouse through sickness and health? We utter those words on our wedding day but have you really thought about what that entail.
About 3 years ago, I noticed a drastic change in my personality. I shrugged it off saying that I was tired, no big deal. Well that change began to happen frequently and monthly. The hubby and I would have the most awful “hiccups” and it would stem from absolutely NOTHING. Well, the nothing was my attitude, but I could feel the evilness coming on but couldn’t stop it.
To make a long story short, I found out about a year ago that I suffered from Premenstrual dysphoric disorder, or PMDD. PMDD is a severe form of Premenstrual Syndrome. This disorder brings on a major depressive state, anger or increased conflicts with others plus many others.
At first, we passed it off as me PMS’ing but after a while I knew this was much more than the normal PMS. Not to drag this out, but I want you guys to know that I put my husband through hell and back and he stood with me through all of this. I had to take my life back because it was destroying us. My husband loves me but no one wants to deal with HELL every day for two weeks every month.
I had to make it my business to find a solution for this problem. Sicknesses that are not readily diagnosed can creep in and cause a discord in your marriage & in your house. Do your due diligence to be aware of what is going on with your body and discuss it not only with your doctor but with your spouse.
I am so glad that I am able to share any and everything with my spouse. When we found out what was going on, he was relieved and we were able to recognize the symptoms and act accordingly.
So when you see your spouse acting out of character don’t attack them or take it personally, just wait until the right time to talk with them about what is going on. Don’t be afraid to address your concerns because you do not want the silent killers to take over your marriage.
Have you noticed anything out the ordinary about your spouse behavior?
Debbie says
So true, not everything your spouse does is a reaction to what you have done. Thank you for the article.
monique says
I don’t have a spouse but I would agree that a sudden mood change would be confusing and could be hurtful, to say the least. I think it’s great that you recognized that something was wrong, and were proactive about finding a name for the problem, and working towards a solution. I think your husband did a good job as well (based on your description), since he was supportive during your ordeal.
Notorious Spinks says
I’m not married but I agree that communication is very important before and during marriage. It ensures that both parties are on the same page.