Marriage is a wonderful vessel. It’s how you treat your marriage and what you put into it, that reveals your results. In marriage you have plenty of options. Those options are determined by what your goals are.
“You DO have options!”
As a married couple, you must learn to function together & speak the SAME LANGUAGE! Being on one accord will strengthen your bond & your foundation & NOTHING is impossible for you guys as couple. (Genesis 11:6)
So what is exactly functioning and speaking the same language?
Functioning as one means that everything you do, say, wear, look at, and speak about will reflect your marital status. As a husband/wife, your actions should benefit your spouse, your marriage foundation, and your family as a whole. There should never be a reason why someone has to second guess if you are “STILL” married.
Speaking the same language means that you have a clear understanding what your spouse wants, needs, and require from you and the marriage. You understand your spouse Love Language, Sex Language, and overall Need Language.
This is not a hard task but one that must be taken seriously if you are to have the marriage you desire and need.
So how do you accomplish this?
- COMMUNICATE: you cannot get around talking to your spouse if you expect to build a solid healthy marriage.
- Date Your Spouse: you must incorporate quality time into your marriage. This is not something that can be done sporadically. You must take this quality time seriously and use it to bond with your spouse.
- Be Open: Everything cannot and will not be your way and your way only. Understand that your spouse has ideas, feelings, and is worth listening to.
Remember you do have options. You have the option to sow positively into your marriage or negatively into your marriage.
Which option will you choose?
Mel Bourn says
Great post!! I couldn’t agree more. We have also found that we had to learn each other’s “Language of Love,” how the other person expresses their love. For me it is in my actions. How I serve my husband. For him it is in the gifts and his touch. Touching my arm as we sit and watch a movie or holding my hand. I am “speaking” his language more and he is “speaking” mine.
Mel
Kristyn Kilcullen says
these are all very great tips for marriage, thank you for sharing this post!