I am so thankful for all the followers of Still Dating My Spouse. One thing I have found out from the survey is: we have singles that are following us and want to know what they should be doing now before marriage to make themselves ready when the time comes. It is so important that the marriage-minded singles searching for true love really understand the importance of this time in their life. Being single is not a CURSE and you are not doomed to dating any and everybody but more of time to get to know you and understand what makes the perfect mate for you.
Warning: The single life is not a curse
Being single allows you the opportunity to FOCUS on YOU! It gives you time to grow, experience life and also understand what you want in and from a mate. This is the opportune time to garner your own happiness. If you know how to make yourself happy, you will not look for a relationship in order to be “happy.”
Dana Michel, Founder and President of a new dating site, Marriage Material, shared some tips recently on how singles can prepare themselves to find true love:
#1 Eliminate any non-marriage material people from your life. Do not waste time with someone you would never introduce to your family or colleagues, much less marry.
# 2 Start being the person to attract the kind of person you are looking for. If you have succumbed to watching Netflix from the couch while eating fast food and you want a partner who is physically fit you had better run not walk to the gym.
# 3 Do not put your life on hold or defer happiness until you meet The One. Take that trip overseas, become a homeowner, get a new hobby or entertain more. It will eliminate the smell of desperation and make you a much more interesting and confident person.
#4 Sign up for online dating. It is the best way to extend your circle. Choose the one that works best for you. But be true to yourself. If you are looking for a serious relationship, don’t sign up for a casual hook up site.
My single ladies and gentleman, don’t look at this time in your life as a curse but more of the preparation stage. This stage in your life is so crucial to your future relationship. Use this time wisely. Get to know yourself.
What tips would you give to a single person today that is considering dating for the purpose of marriage?
Robin (Masshole Mommy) says
I love my husband with all my heart, but I needed to be single for a while before I met him. I am a better wife for it.
Milena says
I don’t think anyone should date for the purpose of marriage. I think if you love someone and are happy that is enough. (Married for 14 years!)
becca says
I haven’t dated in 25 years not sure i could give good advice.
maria @ close to home says
For some people that were in unhappy marriages, single life is a blessing at least that’s what I have heard.
Susan says
What great tips. And you are so right, the single life can be such a wonderful time of focus, no way it’s a curse.
Ellen C says
I am trying to instill this message in my children. Being single is not a curse! Thank you for sharing.
sarah says
Such practical tips. Thanks so much for sharing!
Mama to 5 BLessings says
Single life for me seems like many moons ago, I am glad not to be there personally. Great tips offered!
Christina Berry says
I agree so much about not putting your life on hold while you wait for “the one”. There’s so much life to be lived, and who knows what the future holds. Every day should be cherished and lived to the fullest, and since no one is promised tomorrow, don’t wait – for anyone or anything – to do the things that are important to you.
Debbie Denny says
Very sound advice. Like this post.
rosey says
I love being married. I loved being single. Hubby feels the same way. Both have big bonuses. 🙂
Heather says
Being single does have its ups and downs!
Kelli A says
My biggest tip would be DON’T SETTLE, regardless what others think you should do, always follow whats best for you.
Mommy2jam says
I have been single for a long long time. Its not a curse its a learning time.