A black family is torn about AGAIN.
The black community is moaning the lost of a black leader.
Another one. A black leader is shot down & killed. Yep another one.
What leader? You are probably googling to find out what black leader have been killed.
I want you to keep googling. Make sure you put in the search field “black man shot by police.”
You will see various articles about the growing number of black leaders being killed.
When this happens the black community is destroyed. Yes, the BLACK Community.
See, the man, in this case, black man, is the head and leader of his family. The family is part of the community.
As we continue to see the increasing number of black men killed, the institution of black families are steadily decreasing.
We need our black men.
We need our black families.
How do I know my husband isn’t next?
How do I know, I won’t be forced into the leadership or head role for my family due to my black husband being killed?
Black families will become a thing of the past.
We will not be listed in any history books.
We will not be recognized as a positive group of productive citizens.
Our worth. Our contributions. Our voice. will be limited to the articles, videos, stories of how black men “allowed” themselves to be killed because they was walking with candy at night, they sold cigarettes or DVDs outside a store, they were walking in a park or any other reason a black man is killed just by being black at the right time in the wrong place.
Why?
What have my black husband or black son done to deserve this?
Nothing!
It goes beyond being defiant to the police authority.
We, as a community, must do our due diligence to educate our black boys and men on how to protect themselves.
Black wives, we must uplift, support & pray for our men.
Be the peace and respect that they don’t receive outside the home.
Stay aware.
Stay awake.
Stay vocal.
Stop patronizing those that will standby and silently cosign on the killing of the black leaders.
Stop making excuses as to why the black leader was at fault and caused his death.
Stop saying it’s only 1% of America that is bad.
Just STOP!
Our community. Our leaders. Our marriages are being wiped out one bullet at a time.
We must not let our community, our leaders and our marriages become extinct.
But what do we do?
I’m not 100% sure but I do know it must start with us.
We must go back to grassroot way of behaving, thinking and acting.
Do we need to be Martin Luther King, Jr?
Do we need to be Farakahan?
Do we need to be like the Black Panthers?
We need a mixture of all and even more.
We don’t need to be quiet. We don’t need to be naive but we do need to arm ourselves with the resources to protect our leaders. Our families. Our communities.
And the sad thing is, we need our white counterparts to help save our black families, black leaders, black communities.
Reach out to your white friends, coworkers, neighbors. Have the hard conversation and tell them to get involved in the solution. It will not stop until they step up!
Help us stop the extinction of our community!
Elayna Fernandez says
I love your perspective for wives to be their husband’s rocks and praying for their husbands. We must all pray for black husbands, black leaders, black boys everywhere, because the oppression and the brutality is real. And we can see it now but “blessed are those who believed without having to see!” What else does it take to finally wake up and act? Thank YOU, Pam!
Still Dating My Spouse says
Thanks Elayna
Brennon says
Love your site! You have a new fan from a fellow U S Family Guide member!