Good communication is as stimulating as black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after. – Anne Morrow LindberghOur
After 13 years of marriage, I have realized that communication is the glue that keeps us connected. To achieve a level of communication that will bond us as a couple, we must decide to understand our spouse feelings and hear what is being said instead of assuming what they are feeling and/or saying.
We must undertake the task to learn our spouse communication style. Men and women, genetically, communicate differently; however, that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to communicate with each other. Communication is an action verb. We must do something to achieve the desired results we are seeking.
Developing the right communication style for your marriage demands transparency and honesty and will not happen overnight, but the rewards are priceless.
Why Communication in Marriage is important?
- It Builds Trust: Showing a genuine interest and concern for your spouse well-being will display to them that they can trust you with small and big details of their daily interactions.
- Allow you to bond: Having the liberty to be open and honest with your spouse without judgment.
- Heeds off Loneliness: Having a friend in your spouse, that you can share with and not be judge will eliminate the need to look elsewhere to fill this void.
Without communication, you are just two people sharing a roof; there is no connection, no trust, no bonding, which is all essential for a strong healthy marriage.
Remember our purpose in communicating with our spouse is to create unity! The power of the tongue can either build up or tear down…it’s up to you!
What are some other ways communication is important in marriage? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Join me tomorrow when I share fun date night ideas that will help couples improve their communication skills.
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Heidi says
Terrific article and so true, I think communication is key in any relationship!
John Wilder says
Communication is critically important when you have disagreements. I have a great post that I would like to guest
post on your blog on peaceful conflict resolution skills, the lack of which is the primary reason for break ups.
Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder
Vonae Deyshawn says
This is so true. I was having dinner with a soon to be married friend last night who was talking about this very thing. She was saying that communication is the hardest thing in their relationship. While I know communicating can be tough, it’s so vital in order to keep a healthy marriage. In a book I read “Love & Respect,” the author talks about how both males and females communicate differently. This is a no brainer, but he goes on to explain that we hear things differently as well. He used pink and blue ear phones to illustrate his example. In order to have clear communication, we must be aware that what we say out of our mouths may come off completely different to our spouse and vice versa. The key to communication is asking for clarification before getting offended or worked up.
Vonae Deyshawn
http://www.myvirtueplace.com
Kristin W says
Communication is important in every way! My hubby doesn’t always get that..
Renee @ Made By Renee says
“It Builds Trust: Showing a genuine interest and concern for your spouse..” so true! thanks for sharing – loving your blog 🙂
Janet K says
Hubby and I have always had our best talks at night when we’re watching TV. Someone will say something and that sparks a conversation and then before we know it, it’s 3am and we are still talking!!
Still Dating My Spouse says
Thanks Renee!
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Kristin,
He is probably communicating to you in his own style. You must learn his style of communication and use it when talking to him. Hey we must get his attention in some kind of way…..LOL
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
Vonae,
Very good points. These are some points that I will share in Thursday and Friday series. We must understand that even if we articulate and speak slowly our spouse still will hear what they want to hear. Hearing and Listening to the words being spoken and not the words we perceive that they really mean will help us to communicate and respond effectively…plus it eliminates confusion and misunderstandings.
Thanks for stopping by and please stop by again.
Pamela
Still Dating My Spouse says
John,
As always, I love your comments. Yes, lets talk to get you as a guest poster on SDMS.
Pamela