Do you ever feel like yelling that when you get home? Or do you dread saying those words? You just want to tip toe into the house undetected.
I hope your answer was you want to yell it so that your family, including your spouse, will come running and greet you at the door; but let’s be realistic here most of the time we don’t feel like being bother when we get home.
That is ok.
We all need a moment to catch our breath, unwind from the day, shred our work clothes or whatever saying you like to use. Its ok to need that “Me” time before you but on your mommy, daddy, husband, wife, friend, chef, maintenance guy, lawn guy, teacher/tutor hat (plus all the other hats you wear).
We must understand that we need a true life/work balance and to get that balance we must have time to unwind and prepare for the next tasks ahead.
That means husbands and wives we must work together to make sure each have time to breath and get in the right mindset. Don’t immediately “attack” your spouse when they come through the door with demands, problems, or just talk that they cannot digest at the time.
First and foremost, ask your spouse how was their day? Their response will guide your next response. You will know if you need to just give them a minute or they are definitely ready to connect and talk.
Let’s make it a conscience effort to be aware of our spouse emotional state when they come home from work. This goes equally for SAHM/D. SAHM/D have a tough job as well and they could use some quiet time mid-evening as well. So don’t be so wrapped in to your “job” and don’t give the SAHM/D an opportunity to do absolutely NOTHING.
Now you guys know I must put a disclaimer here (it wouldn’t be me if I didn’t LOL), this downtime shouldn’t not drag out all evening or all night. Take you 30 minutes or so to unwind but after that connect with your spouse.
Share your day. Share what you have going on in your life. Share your thoughts! Just SHARE!
So every evening when it’s time for your spouse to come home, listen out for HONEY I’M HOME! And respond accordingly.
What is the daily ritual in your house for after work wind down?
Donna Marie says
great article!! I am a part of the Drop My Alexa Blog Hop ‘n Train! 🙂
jennifer zuna says
My husband usually tries to find a place to hide when he comes home from work LOL 🙂 Great post!
Still Dating My Spouse says
Jennifer,
I hollered when I read your comment. He doesn’t hid, he just don’t tell you where he is sitting in the house lol
Thanks for stopping by.
Pamela
jody cowan says
Great ideas here! Thanks for putting this on your blog
Merissa @ Little House Living says
I wish I had time to wind down but I work at home so nothing like that here:( I do always try and great my hubby at the door though when he comes home if the baby lets me!
Still Dating My Spouse says
Merissa,
I work from home as well but I definitely find time to unwind from the days activities. Take at least 10 minutes to collect your thoughts and get into mommy/wife role.
Pamela
Jamie Clark says
great post! It is kinda a jokew around work that I come in in the morning or after lunch and say “Honey I’m home” Spend more time at work than home LOL
Still Dating My Spouse says
HaHa Jamie,
We need to change that LOL
Pamela