Walls are erected to divide an area into sections. Walls are erected to keep things/people out. What does the walls you built around you and your marriage have to say about YOU?
As humans, we are quick to protect ourselves and our loved ones. When we are hurt, disappointed or feel alone we put up walls. These walls are barriers. Boundaries [walls] are good but they also harm our closest relationships [our marriage].
When you build up the wall, it’s really hard for your spouse to get to your heart and love you fully. But the wall also keeps you from being able to love 100%.
These walls hinders you from being open, honest with your spouse. It’s not easy to just let people into your world. The thought is: no one will understand but reality is, yes they will. You are not the only one that have experienced hurt. Guess what: your spouse have experienced some form of hurt in their life. Remember everyone has a past.
How to tear down the wall?
This is why regular dates with your spouse is so important. These dates are all about talking, sharing, supporting and getting to know each other.
Trust yourself. Trust your spouse. Tear the wall down and allow your spouse in so you can have that marriage you want.
What wall do you need to tear down? Start small and let your spouse know what you are struggling with.
Mistee Dawn says
I’m struggling in general with talking. I like to keep things inside.
Stacey @ Newlywed Survival says
It is so important to tear down the walls that separate you from your spouse!
My husband and I try to recognize that a wall is slowly going up and deal with the issue before things get too far.
Sharon says
It’s so important to establish boundaries, but tear down walls. Such an important distinction!
Megan says
Beautifully Written! I desperately need a date night with the hubs….we need to find a good sitter first, and perhaps get this baby to take a bottle! Thanks for sharing.
LaShawn says
we both have walls up at times, but we are slowly removing bricks ( if that makes any sense). Marriage is indeed a work in progress!!
Savannah miller says
I think my spouse and I are okay. I have built a wall between my dad and I though maybe I could work on taking those down. I’m sure always being angry at him does affect my relation with others around me.
Mama to 5 BLessings says
Thank you for the encouragement!
valmg @ Mom Knows It All says
It’s true, realizing and acknowledging there is a wall is very hard for some people.
Erin @ The Speckled Palate says
I love what y’all are doing here and offering advice of how to continue making your marriage stronger daily. 🙂 This is a lovely reminder. I like to think we don’t have any walls or barriers between us anymore, but there are some days when it’s just easier (lazier) to throw up your defenses instead of talking everything out. Bookmarking this for a rainy day like that.