How precious also are Your thought to me.
How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them,
they would outnumber the sand. – Psalm 139:17-18
Oh, I am so enjoying Love Dare. It really is helping me to stop and think about my actions not only from my point of view but also from my spouse point of view. How are you doing with the dare?
This week dare is all about thoughtfulness. Think back to when you first met your spouse. You thought about them all day everyday. You talked to your friends about them all day everyday. Everything you did you would think about them.
What happened after marriage? Once we get our spouse, we start slacking when it comes to “thinking” about how our actions would effect them.
Love is not a “when you feel like” thinking about your spouse emotion. Love is a continuous emotion that embodies everything about your spouse. Marriage is about 2 people not just yourself. If you don’t mature to understand that your thinking must include two then you are slowly but surely destroying the marriage foundation you are building.
Thoughtfulness also must be used when listening & communicating with your spouse. Men communicate with headlines. They say exactly what they men and get straight to the point; whereas, women, tend to communicate with subtitles. Women will hint and beat around the bush instead of just saying exactly what they need and want.
When communicating with your spouse, to really show thoughtfulness when communicating, it behoove you to speak to your spouse & not at them. Speak on their level to grasp what you are saying & say exactly what you need without all the fluff.
When was the last time you spent a few minutes thinking about how you could better understand and demonstrate love to your spouse?
[pullquote]If you don’t learn to be thoughtful, you end up regretting missed opportunities to demonstrate love.[/pullquote]
This week dare:
Contact your spouse sometime during
the business of the day. Have no agenda
other than asking how he/she
is doing and if there is anything you
could do for them.
We are almost a month into the dare. How are you doing? How are you feeling? What have you learned about yourself and/or your spouse doing this dare?
How could being more thoughtful become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
Share your thoughts in the comments below. Remember to tell your friends and family about Still Dating My Spouse and the Love Dare.
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