Marriage this…Marriage that! Married couples have good days…but they also have bad days. The struggle is real in marriage. As soon as you think you have kicked an issue, here comes something else.
Marriage Real Talk
Marriage is not all roses & sunshine every day. Anyone that enters marriage thinking so will face some depressing days. When combining two people from two different backgrounds with minds of their own, you should expect that there will not always be harmony between the four walls.
HOWEVER, the struggle doesn’t have to be a struggle if you and your spouse would become one/align your thinking. Honest transparent communication is the key to eliminating the struggle.
Sometimes as married couples, we suppress our true feelings in order not to cause a hiccup, but what we are really doing is saving that hiccup for another time. That’s where the struggle comes in.
When a decision needs to be made, share your opinion. Talk about why you think this/that. Don’t just clam up & say “Whatever you want honey.” We all know that later on you will actually say what should have been said.
How to end the struggle:
- Be truthful (but tactful) with your spouse.
- Listen effectively to your spouse
- Table a discussion until later if need be
- Agree to disagree (calmly)
- Decide is it best to win this argument or give way to your spouse (Is it best to win the argument and lose the respect of your spouse)
Struggle doesn’t have to be real! Be the husband your wife needs. Be the wife your husband need. Be the couple your kid’s need.
Bella says
“Be truthful (but tactful) with your spouse.”
It’s sometimes hard to use kind words when you’re debating/arguing over an issue. The key here is listening or empathizing. If one is able to put himself on the other’s shoes, then it would be easier for them to reach an understanding and be tactful with one another.