Love Dare Week 3- Love is not Selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love;
give preference to one another in honor. – Romans 12:10
Selfish as defined by Merriam Webster is concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others. More and more people of today are being more concerned with their own well-being & how they can get ahead on the backs of others. This attitude should not be part of a marriage.
Honestly, we all have a hint of selfishness in us but its how you handle/control that attribute that will determine how it controls your life, your relationships, and your marriage. We can be really quick in pointing out how our spouse is being selfish but when they point things that we have done that are selfish in nature, we deny we are being selfish.
When a husband puts his interests, desires, and priorities in front of his wife, that’s a sign of selfishness. When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that’s a sign of selfishness.
In marriage, we attempt to take good care of our spouse, who is imperfect, but we vowed to share our life with them. With the agape love we have our spouse, we overlook those flaws and stop pointing out all the things we do for our spouse. Operating for the betterment of the marriage and our spouse without putting our interests and desires before the well-being of our marriage, is a clear sign of selflessness.
Let’s be clear about something, if you do things for your spouse & your family “out of the goodness of your heart” but you “brag about them or throw it up in their face at any and all chances” you are being SELFISH. Do everything out of love not for ulterior gains/motives.
Real Love and Selfishness are not friends. So don’t try to do both & think you are being a good spouse.
If you have traits of being a selfish person, just remember that you spouse has it really hard because they MUST love a selfish person. So stop and ask yourself, could you love you if you were married to a person like yourself?
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.” -Philippians 2:3
This Week Love Dare:
Whatever you put your time, energy, and
money into will become more important
to you. It’s hard to care for something
you are not investing in. Along with
restraining from negative comments,
buy your spouse something that says,
“I was thinking of you today.”
How did you show kindness last week? What have you learned about love from the first two weeks of this Love Dare?
What could you purchase for your spouse that would let them know you were thinking of them?
Please comment below and share how you are doing with the love dare & how you plan on showing your spouse you are thinking about them.
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