When attempting to make changes in your life/relationship, there are certain things that must take place for the changes to be effective.
Day 1 of the 14 Day Marriage Challenge is for a fresh start.
Why a Fresh Start
The whole purpose of the challenge is to improve the marital relations between you and your spouse. In order to achieve this you must leave the past exactly where it is-in the past.
You cannot move forward if you are continually looking and/or holding on to the past. Factors of the past are used to build our character and allow us to grow. You must allow those events to do exactly that: help you grow.
How to Have a Fresh Start?
10 ways to begin a fresh start:
- Leave the past behind
- Don’t keep bringing up stuff you said you forgave your spouse for
- Stop being NEGATIVE
- Pray for the strength to let bye gones be bye gones
- Forgive
- Focus positively on your marriage & spouse
- Become friends again
- Don’t try to get all the answers to the issue(s), instead try to rebuild the trust
- Commit to a Fresh Start
- Remember why you got married!
Today’s Challenge:
I challenge you to let go of the resentment, the hurt, the lies, and the shame you are holding on to. Let those things go. I want you to write them all down in a letter to yourself. I want you to tell yourself that it is ok to let them go because they no long have a hold over you, your life, or your future. Once you write the letter, (make sure to include everything) I want you to read it out loud to yourself then I want you to burn it! Once it is completed burned that is the last time you will allow the past to cripple your future.
What are the things from your past that you must let go of?
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Challenge Topics
Day 2: Communication
Day 3: Flirt with your Spouse
Day 4: Quickies
Day 5: Social Media
Day 6: Its Time for a Change
Day 7: Positive Affirmations
Day 8: Journal
Day 9: Get Physical
Day 10: Sharing is Caring
Day 11: Remove the Bondage
Day 12: Gift Giving
Day 13: Your Spouse BFF
Day 14: Date Your Spouse
I hope you will join us in this challenge.
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What a great post! Thanks for sharing this =]
MArried 18 years and still loving my best friend as my husband! Love your blog title!!!
Congrats Sharon on 18 years! Thanks…
Pamela
Great post, it is always nice to remember to let go of the things in the past we have said we “forgave” but still let creep back up
I really enjoy reading your posts .The information is helpful and for those of us who have been married a long ime i guess we tend to forget that there are the right way to listen and comminicate thanks!!
Regina,
Its us who get really comfortable because we have been married for a long time. Thanks for stopping by!
Pamela