When was the last time you flirted with your spouse? When was the last time you can remember your spouse flirting with you? Why did the flirting stop? Yes, I know I’m asking a lot of questions but it’s important to know if, when, and how the flirting is happening in your marriage.
TheFreeDictionary.com defines flirting as: to make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
Over time, couples loose the momentum to flirt with each other. With kids, careers, social commitments, its easy for flirting to become a thing of the past. I know when the kids were little and even in school, our lives were so busy that we didn’t have the energy nor was in the mood to flirt. Yes, its easy to forget to be fun, sexy and playful with your spouse.
Why flirting with your spouse is important
- Think back to when you first meet your spouse. There was a little flirting going on then.
- Think back to when you started dating your spouse. You guys flirted during courtship.
- Think back to the day of your wedding. I’m sure there was some flirting going on then as well.
- Think back to yesterday, did you flirt with your spouse?
I know when Stephon and I was dating the flirting was hot and heavy. That manner continued after the wedding but it did simmer down some when we got a few years in marriage, the kids started school, jobs became more demanding, and we were just plain TIRED.
However, over the last few years, our flirting has increased. Flirting to us mean several things, just as it does for most. We flirt to be playful. We flirt let the other one know we thinking about them and last but certainly not least, we flirt to initiate sex.
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Flirting allows you to keep the flames burning, remove boredom from the marriage, and signal to your spouse that they are wanted & loved.
5 Ways to Flirt with Your Spouse
Touch your spouse in a flirtatious way when they least expect. Rub their hand while you are watching TV together, pat them on the butt when they walk pass you, massage their hands, or [my favorite] walk up to your spouse and bite their lips playfully.
2. Use modern technology
Text your spouse a line from their favorite song, a quote from their favorite movie, a naughty thought, and/or even a picture of you.
3. Pet Names
Begin to call your spouse the pet name you once called them when you were dating. Now this one for me is my ultimate favorite. I don’t think I call my husband by his given name unless I am being overly serious. He really enjoys hearing me call him by the special name I gave him.
4. Become an Audio Producer
Record a sexy message for your spouse telling them how beautiful/handsome they are to you. Make sure you add what their sexiness does to you. You can leave them a voice message on their phone, work phone, or even send a voice message via email.
Greet your spouse with hugs, kisses and a negligée (or sexy boxers). Greeting your spouse doesn’t have to happen when they first get home. I do understand that you just wouldn’t be able to have on your sexy grown folks clothes all in the middle of the day when the kids are woke, but you can definitely greet your spouse anytime of the day.
Greeting your spouse, in this instance, means making them feel special!
Flirt with each other like you did before you were married. Get creative and think outside the box now when it comes to flirting with your spouse. Remember, flirting does not automatically mean sex. Flirting is another means of communicating and bonding with our spouse.
The purpose of the challenge is to increase [restart] flirting with your spouse.
How do you plan to flirt with your spouse today?
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Patty A says
I’m always flirting with my hubby, so no problem there for me.
Meghan K says
Good reminders! We shouldn’t stop having the fun we did at the beginning!
Great couple you two make. Flirting is what I used to do best…will try it again on hubby when he gets home end of month!!
Chelsea Klassen says
Thanks for the ideas! I still try to keep flirty with my hubby!
Libby's Library says
What a great challenge. My husband and I have a GREAT marriage…we will be celebrating our 39th wedding anniversary this year. Even though things are fantastic, it’s always a plus to keep building on our relationship.
Still Dating My Spouse says
Congrats! 39 years wow….We wish you guys many many more.
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Kelley Johnsen says
Pam you give wonderful advice. If more people listened to you we would have less divorce and singles running around. 🙂
Still Dating My Spouse says
Aww thanks Kelly!
Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says
My husband and I text all day long. These are awesome ideas.
This is a really great reminder to never stop flirting with your spouse. I think we often go so busy in the everyday that we forget how important it is to make them feel special!
Thanks so much for this post. I have to admit, after being married for a while now and juggling our respective work schedules, flirting has fallen by the wayside.
Tiffany C. says
I totally agree with this here. My husband and I still can’t keep our hands off of each other. It kind of grosses our kids out a bit. I just laugh. We are going to celebrate 10 years of marriage this coming February.
Amy D says
I think these are great ideas to flirt! Wearing a cute outfit that he loves could work too.
These are great ways to flirt with your spouse and I bet it would help keep the chemistry alive between each other too! I am glad you are sharing this, as it is helpful for many to be able to have a resource of easy ideas to flirt with their spouse 🙂 I believe in keeping things fresh, just never had a partner feel the same.
Chelley @ AisForAdelaide says
I love this! What great tips on reconnecting (and staying so) for us marrieds!
Liz Mays says
These flirtation methods will definitely keep it fun! I like your ideas!
Kelly Hutchinson says
I have not flirted with my spouse in a long time, and I am so embarrassed. I am going to leave him a sexy message tomorrow!
Vera Sweeney says
It is so important to keep the spark alive!! It is so easy to get caught up in the everyday we forget some of the little things.
Autumn @Mamachallenge says
Love these tips! A flirty greeting when your spouse comes home from work can really change their day!
Sabrina @ Dinner, then Dessert says
You’re right, it can be very difficult to retain the flirting element once kids come along and dominate the conversation! Thanks for the tips!
Ann Bacciaglia says
These are great tips. I will have to share these with my married friends.
Tammy Roy says
This is such a great post. I will have to try a few of these with my Husband this weekend.
I still try to give the over the top, sometimes inappropriate compliments that I did when we were dating.